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By Victoria John

A number of parents are stuck in a desperate battle with a church in Durban's upmarket suburbs that they accuse of "stealing" and brainwashing their teens.

Calling Grace Gospel Church in Pinetown a "mind-controlling" Christian cult, the parents claim girls have been married to men they hardly know, chosen for them by the church.

The church is a branch of Church Team Ministries International (CTMI), an international Christian group with head offices in Mauritius.

The group's leader, Basil O'Connell-Jones, was sent to Durban from another CTMI branch, Selborne Park Christian Church in Bulawayo, Zimbabwe, in 2003.

He is well known in charismatic Christian circles for his autobiography Amazing Grace, which details his time as a soldier in the then Rhodesian army and his near-death experience of being shot in the head and then overcoming the injury.
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Now O'Connell-Jones is accused of ministering to many young people, aged between 18 and 30, and encouraging them to abandon their tertiary studies and careers and leave their families to live with him in his Hillcrest home or in other church leaders' homes.

CTMI is led by founder and televangelist Miki Hardy, who is said to live in luxury in Mauritius. The group is alleged to encourage its members to leave their home countries and go to the island to help build the Mauritian church and "serve the Lord".

Parents who have lost children to the group have formed the Concerned Parents Group, to fight the church.

They tell of how, when pastors initially approached the Grace Gospel Church with their concerns, including the church's aggressive recruitment of children from their churches, they were called "pathetic Pharisees", jealous of the church's secret doctrine, which no other church apparently has.

CTMI is considering suing the parent group for defamation, for calling it a cult and for accusing it of kidnapping children.

But the parents are undeterred. They believe that any court case would lift the lid on the church's activities.

Keith Brown, who was part of a team of members from other churches at a meeting with GGC leaders, says a CTMI leader bluntly told them: "Jesus did not come to bring peace in families but a sword".

Brown says his eldest son Stuart (then 27) was diagnosed with cancer in 2006 and died in a hospice after being cared for in church leaders' homes because the leaders "felt uncomfortable visiting Stuart in our home".

Steve and Heather Goddard, of Kloof, say their daughter, who they did not wish to name, has been a member of the church for almost three years and started avoiding her other Christian friends "in favour of members of Grace Gospel".

Anthony and Romaine Chaplin, of Durban North, say their son had been a top pupil at Kearsney College before going to study at the University of Cape Town.

Last April, he abandoned his studies to go to Mauritius.

The parents have now set up a website - www.ctmi concernedparents.com - with stories about their children and links to websites about dangerous cults and the characteristics of cults.

"This church has brainwashed our children. They are encouraged to reject their biological families and their studies and will more than likely be pushed into an arranged marriage," says one of parents.

But O'Connell-Jones's daughter Kara-Jane and her husband Richard Seynisch have defended the church, saying they are like any other young person in their age group.

"My life started and ended with drinking, clubbing, fornication and all other 'youthful lusts' that surrounded me," she says. "Then, during my first three weeks in Mauritius, I was bowled over by the light, the joy and the freedom that was so evidently oozing out of the people in the church."

But Melany Wood, 21, who attended a youth camp in Mauritius at the end of 2007, says: "People there are blinded. They are so struck by this church that they cannot see reality."

Another girl, 22, who wished to remain anonymous left the church in high school after she had questioned the teaching.

"I've seen my good friends, girls of 18 and 19, give up their dreams because the church labelled them 'worldly' and 'of the flesh'. They've had their lives mapped out for them, and some of them have been married off to men who were chosen for them by the church - guys they hardly know."

Leaders of the GGC did not wish to respond to the allegations. "CTMI is a non-denominational missionary organisation with thousands of members across 25 different countries. We do not wish to be involved in the dispute between four families and their relationships with their children, all of whom are major citizens.

"We have chosen therefore not to reply to any allegations against us and to leave it to the young adults themselves to address the issue, as they are the ones who are directly concerned," they said in an official statement to the Saturday Star.



    • This article was originally published on page 3 of The Star on November 07, 2009
Showing page 1 of 4 comment pages, 31 total comments
6 Days ago Fatima wrote :
I find it quite amazing that people can become so SELF-RICHEOUS and decide that another Chruch or Group is a cult. They read the Bible? they Love Jesus? whats the problem? Even If someone wanted to start a cult or worship a rock they are entitled to as long as its within the law. How can you try to stop someones belief because YOU do not agree with them. Who do you think you are! From what i see there is not one single stitch of evidence that this group has intentionally done anything wrong, all allegations seem to be exadurated speculation Wheres the Proof??? I doubt there is any. I dont think these parents are really thinking about their children, i would not embarrass my child in Public like this its discusting, I suggest these parents put their personal agendas aside and think about the real damage THEY are causing to future relations with their children. and maybe go and speak to some parents who have daughters who run away from home and spend their lives hanging out in drug dens being pimped out and abused, that is REAL pain!! This is Pathetic.
1 Week ago Cocerned Anonymous wrote :
I have had contact with this CTMI group and i jus want to say from what i've seen it possesses all the traits of a cult-from having a leader who members say has brought special message from God-"the true gospel"-Jesus says I am the way the TRUTH and the life-There is no other truth besides Jesus people!and Jesus was there long before this leader was born and Jesus will be there long after this leader passes too.They esteem their leader so highly to the extent of almost worshipping him;they believe they are the only ones who are truly christian or more christian than others;they discourage members from having contact with outsiders;they live these lives that are out of touch with reality-like they are already in heaven;they are judgemental of other churches;they major on minor things that really dont matter in the kingdom of God-like genre of gospel music;they are robotic in mannerisms and speech;they have a certain language that is distinct from other christians;members seem so blinded and one-track minded like they have been brainwashed;everyone seems to think that God has called them to Mauritius to "be with the bretheren" where it just so happens their leader is;and when or if they return from Mauritius they are even worse in their deception;members seem unable to make simple decisions for themselves;members seem to change their attitude toward their biological families if these families dont attend CTMI and this is breaking families up-This is not Christ like at all people-dont be decieved.Ask God to open your eyes-Let the Word of God and the Holy Spirit in you be your standard-not your church values and systems-God help us!
1 Week ago Me too! wrote :
To Heather. It is so very sad that you lost a son, and for this I am truly sorry, and also rejoice that he knew the Lord. And it could probably be a good thing that your other son is doing "what the Lord put's on his heart". The question I have is when the Lord "put's it on the heart" of children to reject their parents and their parents' churches I question who is putting this stuff on their hearts? I compare the Word ("Children honour your father and mother that if might go well with you") with "the Lord has put it on my heart to move out of home and down the road to an elders houise, to marry so-and-so against your wishes and drop out of university and move to Mauritius" with Ephesians 6:1-3 and,I'm sorry Heather, the Bible trumps what's "on your heart"! Most of "what's on my heart" is really what's on the leaders heart!
1 Week ago Also concerned wrote :
Where there is smoke there is fire! It is all very well that some of these members of the church can tell us how their children are not having a beer in the local pub, or not being rebellious, or that these people love each other. But I would say that it is a far more serious matter to tell children that their biological family is no longer their family and that the church is now their family It is a far more serious matter to tell these children to move out of home and live down the road or on an island and reject their parents. It is a far more serious matter to convince these children to reject the university studies or career they were previously planning to pursue. I believe that this pastor's wife left him 2 years ago. there is a problem with this church and that is why all the schools in the Highway area have banned the members from mixing with the kids. That is why 2 of them (ex pupils) were stopped from coaching a sports team. They have an agenda, they target young impressionable children and they turn them against parents and they caused them to abandon previously important tertiary studies. Much smoke, have a look - much fire!!
1 Week ago Marc wrote :
The bible is a great book of learning with many great examples on how to live and make decisions. It is not to be taken literally people. Literal perception of the bible = Apartheid, Crusades, Ku Klux Klan and most recently CTMI. I bet if Jesus were here he would bitterly disappointed in how his message has been miscontrued in so many ways to benefit a certain few.
1 Week ago Schroeder wrote :
Everyone that was expecting the space ship to arrive to fetch them seemed happy, and they all died peacefully? Religious manipulation is of the most evil order and those responsible for stealing young lives will have to face up to their doings. I can't stand all this reference to, "being fully in the world" and lost?? Hello cult people, this is the world, it's made up of madness, love and sorrow, good times and bad times, we have to learn to roll with the punches and learn from this amazing place, called the world. Hiding out in Mauritius and profiting from poor people is not making the world a better place. I bet that all members of this church are expected to contribute heavily to the 'building of the church', I bet if you look closely you'll find it has more to do with the building of the elderss' houses. Sadly there are no laws for that prohibit adultery, or the stealing of young minds and souls; if only more attention was paid to this instead of hunting down people without t.v licences. To all young people, the journey of being young happens only once, so embrace the world, make love, get high, learn and most of all be honest in your dealings with the world and always consider your neighbour, that we you'll make it a better place for all. To all cult people, you are pathetic, cowardly and deserve to pelted with rotten tomatoes in annual parade
1 Week ago Sparrow wrote :
Everyone who attends this church has the option to either agree or disagree with the doctrines preached. If they disagree, they can either speak up or not attend that particular church. Many people over time have given up all that they have and chosen to follow Jesus Christ. they have gone into many parts of the world not only to preach the Gospel but taken their talents with them, doctors, nurses and engineers, and through them many nations or regions have been educated and come to know Jesus. I am surprised that there is no outcry in the press when another religion can blow up people, including woman and children, on almost a weekly basis. There are many guys out there who served with the Armed/Special Forces from RSA, Rhodesia, UK and the USA who now serve within the ministry in a number of regions of the world in various fields. I would like for someone to help me understand why Christians must be poor. I cannot find any refererance to this doctrine in the Bible. The Bible in fact shows us many of the great people who were very wealthy, great leaders and men of God. If my parents left me millions, must I now give it all away and live in poverty?
1 Week ago Heather wrote :
I have been a member of Grace Gospel Church, and I am happy to be a part of CTMI.The heading in the independent paper on Saturday "Church Worse than Death”, I experience the worse pain of loosing a son in January this year he was 17years of age the only time I will see my son is when I go to heaven one day. To me a child that wants to serve the lord and be obedient to the calling on his or her life is a joy. I have a 22year old son that was fully in the world he was going down hill. Two years ago he went to Mauritius on a youth camp, he agreed to go as he wanted to see Mauritius and to please me, he went to the camp totally rebellious and in his rebellious state the lord touched his heart and today he is serving the lord and I thank god for that as who knows where he would have been if he was not, as losing his brother was not easy for him, he is in his third year of studying and we as a family have never experienced the church controlling him or telling him what to do, we have only felt the encouragement and support from every elder and member of CTMI. I can only say that I am really proud to be part of the family that the lord has put us in. My son is not influenced by men but only follows what the lord puts on his heart and he has shared with us that if the Lord puts a desire in his heart to move he would go and I know it would be hard as a mother to release him but to me I know the lord would help me as I would rather he does what the lord places in his life than please me and be controlled by the world.
1 Week ago Anonymous wrote :
Freaky, stinks of a Cult. The founder of this church most likley living in the lap of luxury and is the only winner.
1 Week ago Anonymous wrote :
To start with, I have been a member of said church for over 3 years now, but please don't think that it makes me biased towards protecting it. I am first and foremost a Christian, serving Jesus, before a member of any specific church. I also like to think that I approach any church with a serpents wisdom (Matt 10:16), which I would suggest for anyone evaluating the church as well. I also hold a number of professional qualifications and academic awards, so please don't think me foolish enough to be brainwashed in the painfully simple manner some of the other commentators have described. I have carefully watched and analysed the direction of the church and its members, and as with any church, I don't agree with everything they say. However it is clear that they do love the Lord, they love each other and fairly much everyone else they meet, and they do their best to live a life for the Lord. The young adults here do not have people chosen for them by anyone. I have met most of the young couples in the church and some have been friends from childhood, family friends for years, old flames, new flames... there's nothing unusual about their relationships compared to conventional ones (Which, might I add, can have much shorter terms than those described here) except that they're content in the knowledge that the Lord is blessing the union. Every couple I have met is wonderfully in love, serving the Lord wherever they are, and raising the families that we all envy. I have studied during my time with the church did anyone suggest that it was inappropriate. In fact, since I was working at the same time, they offered support to help keep me involved in family days and the like with gifts of transport, cooked meals, accommodation etc. I have known young people to start courses that have taken them far from the Lord because of the culture or content, or courses that they don't really want to do but have been pushed into by parents. I feel that in either case serving the Lord is more important, and I would hope that friends and family would encourage me to abandon such a destructive was of time. I would also content this notion that children have been "stolen" from their parents. Has anybody interviewed these mystery children? I don't see many facts or statements coming from them in the article. It's also seems apparent to me that Christians may need to leave their parents' home to do some soul searching, especially if the parents aren't of the same faith. Obvious examples are when Jesus calls the disciples from their families, suggests leaving he dead to bury their own, and in Matt 10:31 when he asks who His mother and brothers truly are. I know from personal experience that I couldn't serve the Lord properly until I left a destructive father behind, and even then it took years - and will take many more - to learn who The Lord really is and make Him the true centre of my life. I feel these verses also make Lucille's comment evidently out of context. The doctrine is also no secret... any of the leaders are happy to discuss anything with anyone, but it's basically a message of simplicity - Christ and Him crucified. The critique that members may leave their friends after joining the church is also perfectly logical. I had to see much less of my friends once I left atheism behind, and it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. But how could I possibly have succeeded in my walk with the Lord when surrounded by people that I cared about and had been friends with for years pouring thoughts of my old ways in my ears all day? Anyone following a similar conversion can attest to the necessity to "put off the old man", as Watchman Nee so poignantly wrote. By like reasoning, one may have to distance themselves from Christian friends who aren't observing the Lord's will in their lives. In a bid to assess the church I went to Mauritius myself to see the main church in Curepipe, which is one of many scattered throughout the poorest regions. I have met Miki Hardy and his wife and would suggest getting his full story to anyone doubting his sincerity. I'm sure anyone contacted through the website will oblige. He lives in relative wealth in Mauritius, but through a family legacy, not church contrition as with the "Super-preachers" of the US. Despite this, he has used his home as a space for church-related activities for several years, and his doors are open to anyone. In conclusion, please research the church and it's members for yourself, as I have, using primary sources of information so as to avoid something approaching a rather embarrassing witch-hunt.
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