By Juliette Ritz
Germany - She rages, screams and slams the doors, while he sits silent and apparently uninvolved in an armchair - a typical situation in many relationships.
This division of the roles cannot be changed overnight, but it can be helpful sometimes to recognise that both modes of behaviour are evidence of utter helplessness.
Inside the apparently strong, silent man there is often a little boy baffled by the situation he finds himself in, while the violent anger shown by the woman is the sign of a girl battling for recognition.
Inside the apparently strong, silent man there is often a little boy baffled by the situation "Empirical investigations confirm that there are gender-specific differences in communication," Kurt Hahlweg, professor of psychology at the University of Braunschweig, says.
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Nevertheless, these differences are not as great as is often maintained. Men are brought up from the time they are very small to show no signs of weakness, but this also means that they are reluctant to discuss problems. When it comes to communication, men and women find themselves at cross purposes.
"Conversation has differing functions for the two sexes, conditioned by their cultural background," Dirk Zimmer, professor of psychotherapy at the University of Tuebingen.
Women unburden themselves by talking. They look for agreement and confirmation, while male communication is more goal-oriented. When they talk about a problem it is with the aim of resolving it completely.
"Talking about feelings is and remains the domain of women," Zimmer says. Women are better able to express feelings through language than men are, but this does not mean that men lack feelings or fail to show them.
A loud and unconstructive argument about nothing in particular "In the case of football, these emotions can boil over without warning," he says, but he adds that men have to learn from women that talking about feelings can help to build a relationship.
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