Lessons in loving to try at home

Published Aug 30, 2006

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GLAMOUR magazine asked its favourite sexperts to reveal their lessons in red-hot loving. Do try these at home...

Lesson 1: Double the frequency and length of your kisses

“People who kiss a lot are more passionate than those who just have a lot of sex.”

Emily Dubberley, editor of Scarlet, sex magazine for women

Lesson 2: Make eye contact during oral sex

“It's such a visual turn on for a guy, and it's sexy to see you enjoying it.”

Michael, copywriter

Lesson 3 Explore the senses

“Lead him blindfolded into a room you've prepared with candles, scent and soft music. Slowly undress him. Touch him lightly with your fingertips. Blow on his skin. Only you can decide when to remove the blindfold.”

Marta Osborn, Tantric sex instructor

Lesson 4: In a crowded place, whisper in his ear

“Lean over and tell him exactly what's going to be happening in a couple of hours' time.”

Andy, personal trainer

Lesson 5: Burn essential oils to set the mood

“Sprinkle three drops of rosemary, four drops of orange and one drop of rose in a burner. These stimulating, sexy scents act like a magic potion.”

Elisabeth Millar, aromatherapist

Lesson 6: Groom each other

“Offer to wash his hair or ask him to paint your nails. It encourages you both to be gentle and sensual with each other.”

Dr Pam Spurr, author of Sex, Guys And Chocolate (Chrysalis Books, R142, Exclusive Books)

Lesson 7: Keep up communication in fun ways

“Leave a Post-it note on his steering wheel, write a message in the steam on the bathroom mirror, or send an email or SMS. It doesn't have to be raunchy - just letting him know you love him will encourage him to reciprocate.”

Mary Clegg, sex expert

Lesson 8: Strategically hang a mirror to reflect your bed

“Even if you're just lying down chatting, there's something very intimate about watching yourselves together - and if you're actually having sex, it's extremely erotic.”

Shelley, travel PR

Lesson 9: Agree on a ‘love pact' with your partner

“For instance, you might agree to spend 30 minutes caressing each other to arousal before even attempting intercourse.”

Julia Cole, relationship therapist

Quick fix

Our schedules don't always allow time for bedroom marathons, but everyone can squeeze in a quickie every now and then. Glamour relationship coach, Tracey Cox suggests that having lots of quick mini sessions is a vital way to keep both partners permanently on a sexual simmer.

“Expecting to reach orgasm each time is unrealistic,” warns Tracey, but quick sex restores the faded emotions of a comfortable relationship.

She concurs that, “Impulsive, unplanned sex keeps the buzz alive and there's no doubting that quick sex, rather than no sex keeps you connected.”

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