New York - Sexpert Athol Kay has had sex with his wife more than 5 000 times – and says it’s the secret to a happy marriage.
After two children and 16 years of marriage, they could be more than forgiven for having swopped bedroom gymnastics for a good night’s sleep.
But aside from illness, Connecticut couple Athol and Jennifer Kay have had sex every day since they tied the knot, a whopping 5 000 times in total.
Now blogger Kay is sharing the secrets of his enviable – or exhausting – sex life with frustrated husbands, to show “the hottest sex possible” should begin, not end, with marriage.
In a new book, the Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011, Kay promises to reveal the secrets of the female psyche so husbands can “reclaim” the main reason they got married – sex.
The self-styled “mixed marital artist” says men can rescue a sexless marriage by making sure they are attractive to their wives – not by looking for thrills elsewhere.
He told MailOnline: “It’s almost surprising that people don’t have sex. When you get married, you put all your eggs in one basket, so you may as well enjoy the basket!”
And he should know. He confesses he began writing his sex blog early last year after having two “emotional affairs”, which forced him to seek advice on the internet.
He told MailOnline: “A lot of my problems were solved when I realised how wonderful my marriage actually was.”
He says he found he was good at talking husbands out of cheating and attracted so many fans, he turned it into a book.
Kay, a nurse originally from New Zealand, has based his advice on everything from evolutionary psychology and biology to romance novels, women’s magazines and “cheap porn”.
His most important tool is the Male Action Plan, which instructs husbands on how to make themselves more attractive – because “whoever is the most attractive in the relationship is in charge”.
“The truth is, for the typical guy the woman able to give him the hottest sex possible, and his best shot at lasting happiness, already climbs into bed each night with his wedding ring on her finger.”
The author is more than happy to admit he practises what he preaches.
He told MailOnline: “It’s not as if we set out to have sex 5 000 times.
“It wasn’t until we looked back on it that we realised quite what we’d achieved.”
The couple met at a Maryland holiday camp in 1991.
They had a long distance relationship for three years, before getting married in 1994.
According to Kay, the key to a happy marriage is having sex at least twice a week – and “10 seconds of sustained kissing a few times a day”. – Daily Mail