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The only foolproof way to make sure a secret stays a secret is to keep it to yourself.
London - The smile was sympathetic, the restrained pat on the arm comforting. Then my friend’s husband murmured softly: ‘Nasty business, but I hope you’re feeling OK.’
For a moment I was perplexed. And then the penny dropped. His wife - my so-called confidante - must have blabbed a secret I’d entrusted her with. It concerned a distressing email I’d received from an acquaintance. When I gave a bit of a weepy account to my friend, I’d finished by stressing my story was to go no further. She nodded - and then went on to spill the beans to her spouse.
I was fuming. But when confronted, my friend barely flinched. ‘Yes, you said: “Don’t tell anyone,” ’ she demurred. ‘But my husband isn’t just anyone.’
Since when did husbands get an opt-out clause in terms of their wives breaking a confidence?
Psychologist Sue Firth says: ‘It’s not malicious. Some women simply see it as a form of infidelity if they don’t tell their husbands everything.’
The other week, a contact told me a married man she knew was playing around. But I respected my friend’s confidence and kept schtum.
Men, however, seem to be genetically geared to speak without thinking. I remember one friend divulging to another that she was having a baby, asking her confidante to keep the news to herself. At a dinner party a few days later, the mom-to-be was about to accept some ice cream when her confidante’s husband boomed: ‘Should you? It’s got raw eggs in it.’ She was mortified.
So I have concluded that the only foolproof way to make sure a secret stays a secret is to keep it to yourself. As the old saying goes: ‘Loose lips sink ships.’ - Daily Mail
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poplap, wrote
When I tell my girlfriends stuff, I know they share with their husbands. It does not faze me at all. It means that we can gossip, even if her husband is in the vicinity, because he is "in" on it. I prefer it that way. Their husbands are all very discreet, anyways. He is an extension of her. Why would we be whispering when I am with her, asif there should be a conspiricy that he, bad man, great enemy, should not know about? Thats just plein silly. Its a tripartate;-)
Barbara, wrote
Where does this idea come from that you have to tell your husband EVERYTHING!! He is your husband and mate, not your psychologist and priest ....
claire, wrote
I tell my husband everything - fortunately he understands the concept of a confidence. And by the way Anonymous at 10.01, he IS my family, thefamily I currently live with, being my husband and my children.
Anonymous, wrote
10-01 It is true when a man know to much he will use it and that is the fact,men love a shield when they are in a raw with the wife so that is his protection.But not all men are dogs hahahahahaha
S, wrote
Are you seriously askingadvising married couples to lie to one another or keep the truth from one another?
Anonymous, wrote
yes, true, keep to urself what u dont want others to know, i told my husband something and i regret, he does use it against me at times. Even the kids knows that some things are just not to be told to there father. So a mother or women carries lot of parcels on her shoulders.
Anonymous, wrote
Anonymous, wrote
My granny told me - Never tell your husband everything, he will use that info against you. After all he is not your Family.
Scam 2, wrote
M, wrote
Anonymous, wrote
This is a disgustingly sexist article. How does this drivel even qualify as worthy of publishing?
RJS PRESSROOM, wrote
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