‘Fear of intimacy leads women to fake it’

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IOL pic mar 16 sex survey couples SUPPLIED Scientists claim the real reason why women fake orgasms in bed is because they are riddled with insecurities and have a fear of intimacy.

It is news that will undoubtedly be met with great scepticism by the fairer sex.

But scientists claim the real reason why women fake orgasms in bed is because they are riddled with insecurities and have a fear of intimacy.

While 60 percent of women claim to have faked ecstasy during intercourse or oral sex, researchers believe this has little to do with protecting their partner’s sensitive feelings.

Instead, according to a study, many women pretend to climax due to their own fear of intimacy or because they feel insecure about how their bodies react during intercourse or simply because they want it to end as soon as possible.

Lead researcher Erin Cooper, of Temple University in Pennsylvania, told LiveScience: “This is something that we talk about happening in popular culture, in the movies and magazines.

“We know that this is pretty prevalent in our culture, but we don't know much about it from a scientific standpoint. That to me is a real catastrophe.”

She interviewed 366 women aged between 18 to 32, all of whom admitted to faking orgasms. The volunteers were asked to explain the reasons why they pretended to orgasm and how they felt about sexual intimacy.

Those who feared intimacy faked climaxing in order to emotionally keep their partner at arm’s length, while others were doing it to cover up their own embarrassment at not feeling physically aroused.

Coopersaid: “Women who have a hard time getting close to other people on an emotional level it seems now are also having a hard time getting close to other people on a sexual level.

“They are having a hard time across the board, and may be very much in need of intervention to help them out in another domain.

'This could either be the cause or the symptom - we don't know enough about it yet.'

While she found many women fake climaxing for reasons relating to their own securities, there was also a minority who do so to enhance their own sexual pleasure.

“This small subset of women who are faking orgasm for the purposes of increasing their own arousal, actually have higher levels of sexual satisfaction,” she said, adding that faking orgasms was ””one of many tools in their toolboxes for having a positive sexual experience”. - Daily Mail

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05:30pm on 15 June 2011
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TO GEOFF & LEE: I agree with both of you - BUT!! - women these days are supposedly liberated etc. - why don't moreall women SHOW their manmen how to arouse them?? Not all women are the same - and what turns one on may not do so for somebody else. We know this for a fact - SO ladies: take the time to show & tell!!

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10:49am on 15 June 2011
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@Geoff and Lee:what you're saying is very much true and I have personally influenced my fellow freinds and collegues (male) who are way older than me when it comes to expressing and experiencing when it comes to their sexual desires with their patners. (Lee)The main problem that we are experiencing as men is rejection, yes most men just get on with it simply b'cos that's the opportunity they get and will feel waisting time will result to excuses like headaches,not feeling well, being tired, etc from their female patners.I think this should not be blamed on men only but both parties.Lastly we different species hence you guys prefer romantic movies where you learn romance and we on the other hand prefer actionblue movies where there is no romance but action.In order for this to work as patners we need to combine all the stunts from what we have learned and you'll see will all be mentally and physically satisfied, I know I am.Lungi

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zane, wrote

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11:35am on 14 June 2011
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so women are scared of having sex? if this is true then men have a problem

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11:27am on 14 June 2011
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I agree completey with Lee and Geoff!

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Lee, wrote

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10:27am on 14 June 2011
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I agree with Geoff (thank you Geoff for being a sensitive honest South African male), South African men (in general) are either selfish or ignorant when it comes to satisfying their female partner. They either do not care about her sexual satisfaction - are too selfish, self centered or lazy to TAKE THE REQUIRED TIME to adequately stimulating her (physically and mentally), or are ignorant as to how to go about doing so. In this InternetAge where information is FREELY available, ignorance is no longer an acceptable excuse. Raise Your Game SouthAfrican Males - and I am not talking rugby or cricket (or football)!

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shaq, wrote

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09:38am on 14 June 2011
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Hi there 2 or 3 weeks ago i read a story on iol that court my eyes, it was about the married lady that wanted to know if its ok to meet again with man that she had affair 10 year ago. is it possible to have copy of that again i will love to read to friends of my i find very interesting, is it possible. Shaq

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09:09am on 14 June 2011
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Scientists claim the real reason why women fake orgasms in bed is because they are riddled with insecurities.

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Geoff, wrote

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08:38am on 14 June 2011
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I've said it before and I'll say it again. The actual real reason is that SA men (in general) do NOT spend enough time on intimacy, arousal and foreplay and just want to get on with the job. Very selfish! And I should know as i AM a man and I have many mates both single and married and they're all the same.

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