Confidence. The dictionary defines it as trust or faith, being sure. I believe it means feeling good about yourself, especially in regard to accomplishing something. That something can be a new job, a new assignment, a performance review, networking, or a meeting with co-workers.
Here are a few actions that will result in real pay-offs in our confidence quotients.
No, not to a new job or neighbourhood. Move your body. Take the stairs instead of the lift. Park further away from the shop you’re about to visit. Walk. Run. Ride a bike. Do yoga. Lift weights, even if it means doing your reps with a kilo bag of flour in each hand. Work up a sweat. You’ll feel better.
The bottom line is, when we feel better, we become more confident. Exercise clears the brain and the lungs, making room for newer, better and possibly bolder thoughts. It gives us more energy. And – let’s face it – energy is attractive. Energetic people magnetise others.
Nothing enhances your overall appearance like being fit. A good regimen of exercise will improve not only your posture but your personality. I believe that fit people look more focused and more confident.
Exercise not only increases strength and endurance, I find, too, that it helps mightily to defuse anger and frustration, and it gets the creative juices flowing.
LOOK AT WHAT YOU WEAR
There is no such thing as neutral clothing. Everything you put on represents a decision you have made and is a reflection of your good taste, your good sense, and your style. Remember, we judge others more on the basis of what we see than anything else. If your attire is inappropriate, colleagues are apt to question whether you know the rules of the game and whether you are or aren’t likely to be a significant player. Your superiors are apt to conclude that the quality of your work will match the quality of your appearance.
When you’re considering how to dress for a work situation, ask yourself these questions:
We’re not talking fashion statements here; we’re talking about what works in a given environment to be effective.
Grooming is everything. Develop four key relationships and you won’t go wrong:
Find sanctuary inside yourself. There is honour in standing still. We are so time-crunched, information-bludgeoned, downsized and multi-tasked that it’s spiritually suffocating. Who we really are comes from the inside out. Without a way to “go inside” and focus, we add to our environment’s chaos rather than its harmony.
Learn “belly breathing”: lie down on the floor, be quiet and place your hands on your tummy. Breathe from your belly, letting your belly rise and fall like a bellows. Babies breathe this way and we know how self-confident they are. I’ve learnt to belly breathe on elevators, in toilet stalls, and in the middle of crowded rooms when I need to calm down and focus. No need to “om”.
Keep your agreements. Be on time. Be mindful and in the present. That is a gift to yourself as well as others. Whatever we think and feel now creates what happens in the future. When we stick to the “now” and don’t chase rabbits, we are involved and aware of opportunities. Others we deal with will sense that we’re fully with them. That has tremendous impact on the quality of our personal and professional relationships.
GIVE AND RECEIVE
Give whatever you hope to receive in turn. If you want more co-operation and respect, give respect and co-operate. If you want to succeed, help others succeed. If you want more joy, be more joyful. When we circulate our positive energy, we create more and more to enjoy.
Be open to giving to yourself. Honour your own worthiness to receive or no one else will.
Perhaps, as you read this, you are thinking “yeah, so tell me something new. I know this already”. To paraphrase one of my teachers, “although we all know what to do, successful people do what they know”. – Reuters