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Cyberbullying has driven sensitive teens to suicide. Build up your value in your own eyes, says Dr Demartini, and you can survive the bullies.
Cyberbullying is simply bullying through social media technology, and this technology is neither bad nor good – it’s simply a modern platform that allows us to interact and express our feelings and thoughts.
Some highly sensitive teenagers are so devastated by cyberbullying that they will take their own lives, while others who are more resilient can shrug it off as if it were nothing.
Have you ever wondered why some people are more susceptible to bullying than others? The difference is the person’s level of empowerment, adaptability and self-worth.
Empowered people with a greater sense of self-worth will be less impacted by what others think or say about them. When the voice and vision on the inside are louder and more profound than all opinions on the outside, you have begun to master your life.
And when you value yourself, the world also values you. In any area of your life you are not empowered in, someone else will overpower you.
As long as you minimise yourself to others, through comparisons, you are more likely to reveal or sacrifice your personal information to a complete stranger. A lowered self-worth will tend to make you more desperate and you will tend to talk to anyone without a wise selective screening process.
Value yourself enough to be selective in who you deal or socialise with. If you are having difficulty loving many parts of yourself and you are minimising yourself, it might be wise not to expose yourself so readily on social media and become easy prey for the bully.
One of the wiser things to do if someone is already bullying you is to ask how this could possibly be of great service to you.
Everything has two sides. It’s not what happens to you as much as it is your perceptions, decisions and actions towards it. Turn their antics to your advantage and spin it in your favour. Maybe it could be a wake-up call to empower yourself.
It doesn’t always help as a parent to put extreme controls on social media and alienate your teenagers – it’s wiser to teach your teens how to empower their lives so the bullying-bullied dynamic is less likely to exist, or if it does arise it can be spun into empowering opportunities.
It’s also wise to look carefully at your own life and make sure you are not bullying someone yourself. We all have moments when we could be perceived as a bully. It could be by a family member, a colleague or in the context of racism, gender or creed. By reflecting first and acting wisely second you are more likely to solve the dilemma before it gets out of hand.
It is wise to empower yourself with ever greater self-worth. By living true to your highest values and prioritising your daily actions, you will grow your inner self-worth. If you don’t plant flowers in the garden of your mind you will forever pull weeds. So fill your day with the most inspiring, empowering and highest priority actions you can and your elevated self-worth will make you invulnerable to the cyber-bullying of others.
*Dr John Demartini is a best-selling author of nine self-help books, translated into 29 languages. He is also an international business consultant and an educator. He teaches full-time, assisting people across the world to empower themselves. He has appeared on numerous documentaries, including The Secret. Demartini has addressed audiences across the world and shared the stage with some of the world’s most influential people, like Richard Branson, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra and Donald Trump. He is the founder of the Demartini Institute, with a branch in Houston and in Johannesburg.
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