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Mapula Khoza, the sister of a police officer at the centre of the sex video, says the media shouldnt have published the pictures. Photo:Itumeleng English

The family of the female police officer at the centre of a row about explicit sex video pictures splashed in a daily newspaper is devastated at the disclosure.

They fear that the woman may take her own life as the scandal takes its toll on her.

“We visit her every day. She is trying to cope, but we can see she is very depressed. She is strong, but you never know what might happen,” said the police officer’s sister, Mapula Khoza.

The police officer and the correctional services officer were caught on video having sex while on duty at Leratong Hospital.

The video was allegedly filmed by the correctional officer and later circulated by a colleague, and has sparked a frenzy of gossip and speculation in Kagiso, near Krugersdorp, where the two officers live.

Police Minister Nathi Mthethwa described the exposé as “embarrassing” and “immoral”.

The two officers have since been dismissed.

On Tuesday, the police officer’s family said the incident and its subsequent publication in the media had left them heartbroken.

“The whole thing has hurt us a lot. As a family, we are going through the most difficult time of our life,” Khoza said.

She said they had been tormented since rumours about the video started circulating in the township about three weeks ago.

“There were a lot of negative remarks around us that we didn’t understand. Even when we walked into the streets or went to the shops, people would gossip and laugh while pointing fingers at us.”

It got nastier on Sunday, when she heard people talking about the video in a taxi she was travelling in to the Krugersdorp shopping mall.

“I just kept quiet, but deep inside it was hurting and embarrassing,” she said, adding that a neighbour had later that day told her brother about the video.

“My brother explained what the video was all about. I couldn’t believe it because I know my sister is a good woman,” Khoza said.

And then the unthinkable happened: “I was shocked to hear the news about pictures of my sister in the newspaper on Monday. I went out to buy the paper, but didn’t get it. How it got into the media, I don’t know,” she said.

Still worried, Khoza went to her sister’s matrimonial home.

“I found her sleeping. She looked very depressed. She was trying to stay calm and strong, but I could see she was struggling,” she said, adding that her sister and her husband had been married for 15 years.

Khoza added: “She said it’s not something she had planned and was full of regret, especially because she had put her mother and husband through a lot of pain.”

The family was also disturbed at rumours on Tuesday that her sister had committed suicide.

“We heard rumours that she tried to kill herself by taking pills. It’s all lies and shows how insensitive people can be,” Khoza said.

She blamed the correctional officer for the exposé.

“Why he took the video, I don’t know. The worst thing is that he couldn’t even explain why he did that,” Khoza said, adding that the family had not made contact with the correctional officer.

But she has spoken to her sister’s husband. “I sympathise with him because his parents are late (sic) and we were like his own family. I spoke to him and it was clear he is hurt by the whole thing. He said ‘only God knows’.”

Khoza lashed out at the media.

“I am very disappointed and angry. They didn’t even try to approach us. But what we ask ourselves is: did they think about how this will affect my sister’s children and their education?” she asked.

Also devastated was the police officer’s mother, who asked to be identified by her first name, Malebo.

“She might have made a mistake, but I know she is a respectful and honest person. She is a Christian and regular churchgoer. I am hurt, but I will leave everything to God.”

The Commission for Gender Equality and Media Monitoring condemned the use of the explicit photos and questioned the way the story was covered.

National police spokesman Vishnu Naidoo condemned the police reservist for “embarrassing her colleagues” and “bringing the police into disrepute”, adding that publishing the pictures was “insensitive”, particularly as children had access to the newspaper. - The Star


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Anonymous, wrote

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11:39am on 19 August 2011
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THAT PRISON WARDER DID IT ON PURPOSE I KNOW ITS NOT RIGHT , HE WAS TRYING TO PROVE SOMETHING JUST BE STRONG UN WILL PULL THROUGH, MOVE GO AND START SOMEWHERE I KNOW ITS ALL OVER, UR KIDS MUST BE STRONG ,PEOPLE MAKES MISTAKE PRAY AND SAY LETS FIND THE STRENGH THROUGH THE PRIMIS OF GOD,THE TERRIBLE DANGER IN THOUGH TIME IS THAT WE LOOSE OUR EMOTIONAL POWER AND CREATIVITY BUT THE SOLUTION GOD OFFER IS THE PRAYER , I CAN THIS MESSAGE ,PEOPLE WILL TALK LET GOD BE THE JUGDE OF THAT U WERE TEMPTART U MUST SAY GOD ME THE STRENGH TO HOLD ON AND TO LET GO

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Carin, wrote

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11:39am on 19 August 2011
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And now the female ex-police officer is suddenly depressed and trying to cope? And suddenly she regrets for putting her husband and her mother through this pain? So i take it she did not feel this same depression and regret while she was enjoying the pleasures of adultery? She should have thought about all of these consequences when she went into the affair. She was a police officer - a public servant who represented the law of our country. No wonder we South Africans are losing our confidence in the South African Police to actually do their jobs.

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tony cox, wrote

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11:34am on 19 August 2011
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If I were that lady I would consider suing the Sowetan, I'm pretty sure a line has been crossed here and damages may well run into millions....

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Hilza, wrote

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11:23am on 19 August 2011
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I feel sorry for the woman, imagine having sex with sum1 and then they expose you. To me it's a big stress if the guy don't call the next day; for this case it's embarassing.

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Anonymous, wrote

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11:20am on 19 August 2011
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@JudyB, how can you possibly think it was an unfair dismissal? They were meant to be guarding a prisoner who had been brought to the hospital for a checkup but instead of this they were fooling around for 20 min. That is definite grounds for dismissal as it was complete negligence of duty.

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ET1, wrote

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11:00am on 19 August 2011
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Affairs happen in so many families, and although they’re wrong, the type of exposure these people got is atrocious. I can understand a story about it, but there must be a limit to what you do to someone. Yes, the officers should be ashamed of what they did, but the newspaper should be even more so.

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Anonymous, wrote

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10:29am on 19 August 2011
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it is so sad but such things do happen in life. we are not perfect so who are we to judge let God be the judge of this incident.As for Sowetan they did not think of the effect towards the entire family especially the kids now they have to pay for something they don't know. Please learn to publish more valuable news than personal issues that can ruin people's life.

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JudyB, wrote

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10:01am on 19 August 2011
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What the 2 officers did was disgusting and wrong, but what the Sowetan did was trashy and only scumbags who probably do worse in their own lives would publish such pictures. I also do not recall a law in this country against 2 consenting adults having sex. Also every employee has a right to take a break during the course of the work day. To my knowledge employees do not have anything to do with what one privately does during their break. So I hope the unions willfight this unfair dismissal.

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makk, wrote

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09:56am on 19 August 2011
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People in high profiles they did nasty, nudy things but none of them were dismissed, Is it because of her low profile that caused her to be fired? i'm not talking about that idiot, stupid thing who took the video, he must go to hell

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Anonymous, wrote

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09:37am on 19 August 2011
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I think its good that it got published as it is disgusting there is no exscuse for it and sure we have all made mistakes but then do it in your own personel time and not go around humping each other at the work place .

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Anonymous, wrote

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08:58am on 19 August 2011
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Who the heck are we to judge what other people do or did? These things happen all the time, its wrong i agree. Shame on Sowetan for publishing this and the Idiot who taped it, they were not sensitive particularly to their children and ours

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Anonymous, wrote

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08:58am on 19 August 2011
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Who the heck are we to judge what other people do or did? These things happen all the time, its wrong i agree. Shame on Sowetan for publishing this and the Idiot who taped it, they were not sensitive particularly to their children and ours

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08:05am on 19 August 2011
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What was the police officer thinking to have sex at work while she's married.Did she thought for a while about her marriage and her future.A secret is a secret when it is only known to yourself but there is a second person it is no longer a secret.They have to deal with an outcome.

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Luks, wrote

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07:44am on 19 August 2011
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Guys we must not full our selfs because we all know that God knows good and bad things we do and He act them. So that was the time God takes action on them.

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vivavu, wrote

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07:27am on 19 August 2011
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A photo of a bad civil servant in the newspaper seems to work better than disciplinary action taken at work. So now we know how to deal with bad people! Viva Sowetan!

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TOKYO3991, wrote

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07:16am on 19 August 2011
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Let ye without sin cast the first stone, we're ALL susceptable to pleasures of the flesh. The real travesty is Police Minister's characterisation of this incident as "embarrasing and immoral". Really?? His officers were caught with their pants down in the Fred Van Der Vyfer trial, blatantly screwing Lady Justice. Also his Director General bilked the taxpayer out of R1.6Bn FRAUDULENTLY. Mtethwa should reserve his ire indignation for the REAL criminals in his department (whom he oddly refuses to condemn publicly). The government hypocrisy is breathtaking!!

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jzee, wrote

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06:26am on 19 August 2011
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it has happened people lets give them time to heal they both leant a leason the hard way

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Anonymous, wrote

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11:35pm on 18 August 2011
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shuu this is so sad,this woman is completely destroyed.i dont care about the man he is a fool.He did not think of his seven children when he was taking this video, what a selfish ediot.what a bitter lesson to this poor woman.i wish her strength through it all, she has blundered and maybe it for the first time.woman of MZANTSI lets support the sister for the sake of her children,like everybody who steals and lies everyday she also deserves a second chance.

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Anonymous, wrote

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06:12pm on 18 August 2011
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girl serve it u right. but God has a way to reveal the secretes

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Anonymous, wrote

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06:03pm on 18 August 2011
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2 da women God has reveal the secretes, 2 husband b strong brother. 2 correctional officer keep up the gud work

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