I love you… but only after date number 14

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LONDON: You may believe in love at first sight. Or you might be someone for whom love takes time and patience.

But the average time for telling your partner you love them is after 14 dates, according to a survey.

Participants in the new study revealed the average number of dates per week with a new partner was two, meaning that couples tend to first say “I love you” seven weeks into a new relationship.

First kisses tend to take place two dates or a week into dating, and the first time a couple has sex is, on average, after four dates or two weeks.

The research also showed that most partners are introduced to friends for the first time after six dates or three weeks, and that people are most likely to introduce their new boy or girlfriend to their parents after 12 dates or six weeks. And if things go well, dating couples move in with each other, on average, after 30 weeks or 60 dates.

The study was carried out by dating website seekingarrangement.com, who polled their 100 000 British members to find the average time for a whole series of firsts in a new relationship.

One of the website’s members, 22-year-old student Liya Step, said: “Obviously all relationships are different, but these ‘first-time’ figures look right for me and my girlfriends. None of us is going to jump into bed with a guy the first night we meet him. We may not even be ready to kiss him.”

Seekingarrangement founder Brandon Wade said: “When to say the L-word is one of the great dilemmas. The one rule I urge all members to stick to is never to use it on the first date! That is sure to spook a new partner.” – Daily Mail

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