Martin Robinson
The Ashley Madison hack may have unmasked 37 million members, but it has also laid bare their deepest sexual fantasies.
Next to the names, addresses and phone numbers of every user is a detailed list of what kind of person they want to cheat with and what they expect in the bedroom.
When they joined each Madison member filled out a numbered list of desires using a takeaway-style menu of what they are “looking for” and what “turns me on”.
Hackers from Impact Squad have published these in full because they say the members are “cheating dirtbags”.
Ashley Madison users identified what they were looking for by using code numbers
Prospective partners decode the numbers from a 60-strong list of detailed preferences in the bedroom and decide whether to get in touch.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, one of those most popular options chosen by users is number 45, which requests “lots of stamina”.
There is also much demand for “blindfolding”, while more confident users hoping to live out their Christian Grey fantasies could opt for number 50: “Someone I can teach”.
Ashley Madison is astonishingly easy to use.
Free to join, new members are asked to provide a user name and blurred photograph – the site will pixelate it for you or you can add a “disguise”, such as a mask.
Users then select what they're looking for, ranging from “cyber affair/ erotic chat” to “anything goes”.
It’s open to single and attached users, though those who sign up are predominantly married. The majority are men.
Men then pay in “credits”. The introductory package is £39 for 100 credits or £179 for an “affair guarantee” membership of 1 000 credits. Five credits buys a message to another member and 30 gets you 30 minutes of live chat.
Women don’t have to pay – a sensible incentive, given that 70 percent of the site’s profiles are male. They can then send private messages, “winks” to notify another user that you have viewed their profile or virtual gifts, normally sexual images, and chat via instant messenger when both members are online.
Many then meet for sex.
Users can also reveal their preferred methods: erotic moves (number 34); erotic tickling (number 35); light, kinky fun (number 40) and experimenting with tantric sex (number 21). For those feeling a little experimental, they can select number 23 (which reads “experimenting with sex toys”) or “dressing up/lingerie”, which is listed as number 32.
Other items on the list include gentleness, bondage, fetishes, spanking, role play, sex talking and the ever-so-discreet option of “good with your hands”.
Meanwhile, some users opt for transvestism, while others prefer aggressiveness. For those on the other end of the scale craving a bit of romance, there is the option of a “bubble bath for two” (number 28) and “cuddling and hugging” (number 29).
And for users who want a more straightforward arrangement, there is the ever-reliable number seven: conventional sex.
A second section then asks users to describe what they are “open to”, allowing them to delve further into their sexual fantasies.
Choices include a “Don Juan” (number 1), a “Boy Next Door” (number 47) and a “Bad Boy” (number 36), while some even select the more perverse option of a “father figure” (number 51). People can also request a “Sugar Daddy” or a “Sugar Baby”.
Users can also go into detail about what they want physically from the person, including tattoos, body piercings and “casual jeans/t-shirt types”.
There are also options for tall height, short height, long hair, short hair and BBW – the abbreviation for Big Beautiful Women – as well as facial hair and a “full-sized body”.
For those who are care about the personality of their sexual partner, there are those who can opt for “hopeless and romantic”, while others can select “relaxed and easygoing” and “creative and adventurous”.
For some users, a “secret love nest” is an important factor, while others request “imagination” and a “high sex drive” in the mix.
And for the more cautious, the popular selections are “disease free” (number 55) and, for a website of this nature, the all-important number 11: discretion.
A suspiciously high number of members also claim they were born on New Year's Day, presumably after leaving the selection boxes as their default.
The adultery dating website sees users messages back and forth after being matched via similar interests on the website and often “looking for someone who isn’t happy at home”.
Some of the flirtatious lines that arise during the conversation are either corny or downright bizarre.
“I’m an open minded and adventurous (both in and out of the bedroom) and love passionate sex – giving as much as receiving,” a Sydney man told another user candidly.
“I’m an attached nice guy with no plans of changing either,” another Melbourne man said.
“A smart and witty tongue is sort after, and if I find one, they may be rewarded with mine,” another Melbourne man said. – Daily Mail