London - More and more US couples are splitting the cost of an engagement ring, with many saying that modern times call for a more equal divide, according to a survey on The Knot’s Facebook page.
But others say the break with tradition is a sign that chivalry is dead – and a sign that the marriage may be headed the same way.
According to the survey carried out by the wedding site, opinion is split almost in half, with 46 percent of women saying they would be willing to share the cost of a ring, and 54 percent saying they would not.
Many women have taken to The Knot’s Facebook page to voice their differing opinions.
Some say sharing the cost of a ring is a sign of the times. “I’m absolutely for it,” said one. “Welcome to the women’s rights movement, ladies, you’re only a few decades late.”
A lot of couples these days live together and share bank accounts before tying the knot, meaning that any big financial decision – like the purchase of engagement ring – should be done together.
Another said: “We live in a generation where women work and are often breadwinners of the family. So why should the man have to pay for a ring solely?”
One commenter said: “Just because you split the cost, it doesn’t mean he loves you any less.”
Another said: “Why should it matter? After the wedding, it will be joint money anyway.”
But some women resent the idea that they should share the cost of the ring, noting that it breaks with tradition as well as ruining the surprise element.
One woman said the idea was “tacky”, adding: “It is a gift, a symbol of your willingness to commit.”
Another asked: “Are your birthday and Christmas gifts going to be Dutch too?!” – Daily Mail