London – Couples who want to stay together should marry before they have their first child, according to research published recently.
It found that more than three-quarters of couples who were wed before their first child were still together 15 years later.
But less than half of those who had a baby before marrying kept their marriage intact.
The research, which was carried out for the Marriage Foundation think-tank, showed that marrying before starting a family was a major factor in keeping parents together.
The age of a couple when they became parents was found to have no impact.
The foundation’s research chief Harry Benson said the findings indicated marriage is a bigger influence on parents having a solid relationship than education, which is often cited with wealth as a key driver in encouraging couples to marry and stay married.
The study was based on 1,783 mothers with teenage children who took part in the state-financed survey called Understanding Society. It found that 76 percent of mothers who married before becoming a parent were still with the father when the child was 14 or 15 years old. By contrast, of those who married after the birth of their first baby, only 44 percent were still with their husband when their first-born reached the age of 14 or 15.
While more than eight out of ten women with a degree were still married as their child approached 15, so were 74 percent of women without.
The age of couples, the report said, ‘had no effect whatsoever’ on their chances of staying together. Mr Benson said: ‘This shows that education and age do not dictate the success of relationships as was previously thought.
‘It barely seems to matter if women are younger or older, degree-educated or not; so long as they make a plan for their future and marry before starting a family, they have a really good chance of making that relationship last.
‘It stands to reason that there is one system that works best. It is one that worked for years. While it is right that we have done away with the social shame of having children outside marriage, we should not lose confidence in the value of crystallising commitment before starting a family.
‘The message of this research is clear. For any couple thinking of having children, their best chance of staying together in the long run is by getting married first.’
Out of all the couples still together 15 years after the birth of their first child, 92 percent were married. With cohabitee mothers who never married, less than a third were still in their relationship with the father 14 or 15 years later.
Daily Mail