Johannesburg - She demanded cash before she would have sex with her husband and was a heavy drinker who would verbally abuse the father of her two children whenever she was inebriated.
For nine months until her husband filed for divorce, the socialite “failed to show the (husband) any love or affection”, deciding to party her life away with people of low moral values.
If her husband tried to talk to her, she allegedly told him she had been unhappy since the inception of their marriage, despite painting a different picture in glossy magazine covers.
These are just some of the issues a former soccer administrator and businessman said drove him to file for divorce from his socialite wife and actress.
But, hitting back, the socialite accused the businessman of being a jealous, controlling and dictatorial man who compelled her to quit her acting career and barred her from seeing her friends.
Married in December 2006, the couple were granted a decree of divorce last month, and to protect their two minor children, their identities would not be revealed as per the laws governing divorce.
The man said in court papers before the high court in Johannesburg: “In February 2013, it became patent to the (man) that the (wife) would only afford him conjugal privileges if he provided the funds she required.”
The socialite’s husband filed for divorce on September 27, 2013, citing irreconcilable differences.
He pleaded with the court to grant him sole custody, saying his celebrity wife was unable to provide a “stable family environment” because she prioritised her career and partying over the best interests and needs of their children.
He also said the socialite:
* Did not share his values to make their marriage, the minor children and family life a priority.
* Persisted in socialising with those who did not share their social and moral values.
* Preferred to socialise with her friends and attends parties and gala occasions, returning home in the early hours of the morning, while he stayed home with the children.
* Swore at him at their matrimonial home.
* Consumed alcohol excessively and became abusive towards him while intoxicated.
* Did not share his religious practices or beliefs.
* Had conducted herself in a financially manipulative and abusive manner, making unreasonable demands on him.
The man said that when he “experienced severe stress pursuant to his work experience and professional engagements, the (socialite) failed to provide him with the encouragement or support which could have been expected of a caring and concerned spouse”.
Two months before filing for divorce, he said he had got wind of an “unsavoury” reality show his wife intended taking part in. Since he “does not endorse the values portrayed by the programme”, he had advised his wife against it to protect himself and their children.
But the socialite had “persevered despite his wishes and told him she did not need his permission to pursue her party-going.
The socialite accused her now ex-husband of being “excessively jealous”, compelling her not only to quit her acting career, but forbidding her from watching the TV show at home.
She said he failed to support her and the children “adequately financially despite the fact that he is well able to provide such support”.
The woman was, therefore, “forced to work as master of ceremonies to provide for the children”.
She also accused the man of:
* Being against her friendships with gays and lesbians.
* Disapproving of her closest friend and prohibiting her from associating with her.
* Exhibiting “cruel and unkind behaviour” towards her child from a previous relationship.
“On one occasion, the (socialite) was outraged when she came home and found her son from a previous marriage sleeping on the floor so that the (man’s) son from a previous relationship could sleep in (the socialite’s son’s) bed”.
She denied disrespecting her husband and said she did gala dinners only once or twice a month, with other events attended to earn a living for her children.
The woman disagreed with the claim that she was a heavy drinker, saying she “very occasionally partakes in the consumption of alcohol, and then only in moderation”.
Who gets what:
Under the antenuptial contract they signed before their December 2006 wedding,the man gets to keep two properties, while the socialite keeps a R1.2 million house in Strubens Valley on the West Rand.
They have joint custody, with the children alternating between their two homes every seven days, starting from 6pm every Sunday.
* They will alternate public and school holidays and spend 50 percent of their children’s birthdays with them.
* The children are to spend every Mother’s Day with their mother, and Father’s Day with their father. And they are to spend time with each parent on each parent’s respective birthday.
* The man undertook to pay his ex-wife R5 000 a child every month and has responsibility for the children’s school fees, uniforms and any other related extramural activities.
* The man will also retain the children and their mother on his medical aid, although the ex-wife will be taken off it after a year.
* They have waived any claim of maintenance from each other.
The Star