Once I could loudly say I was a gay man, it changed my life for the better. Picture: Supplied
Once I could loudly say I was a gay man, it changed my life for the better. Picture: Supplied

Cape Town Pride: 'Being the son of a pastor didn't help my coming out'

By Jamal Grootboom Time of article published Feb 26, 2020

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As part of Cape Town Pride Week, the Cape Argus will be carrying stories from members of the LGBTQIA+ community to share insights and talk about the challenges they face:

#MyQueerlife: Being queer is one of the best things in my life and I wouldn't change it for the world

Coming out was something that was really something I struggled with for the longest time. 

I first felt more comfortable with being labelled as fluid, but once I could loudly say I was a gay man, it changed my life for the better. 

Being the son of a pastor didn't help and while it was hard for my parents after I initially came out, they have accepted me for who I am. And following my coming out, my mom wanted a follow-up conversation, since they were the last people I had to come out too. From this meeting what stood out was my mother apologising for her initially reaction. 

For me, being queer informs so much of who I am as a person - which is being someone who tries to be a voice for my community in the little way I can. 

Through my queer journey I also unlearned a bunch of problematic things including internalised homophobia, fragile masculinity, patriarchy, anti-blackness and misogyny. Now I'm proud of the fact that I can channel both my masculine and feminine energy. And not be afraid to have a beat mug giving the gurls life.

Our community has come a long way and while we still have a long way to go, the space we're in now is magical. 

Therefore, I'm here, I'm queer and I'm not going no where.

"Through my queer journey, I also unlearned a bunch of problematic things including internalised homophobia, fragile masculinity, patriarchy, anti-blackness and misogyny." Picture: Supplied

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