There is a new breed of sugar daddies known as blessers, usually “rich old men who lure young women, shower them with gifts and take them to expensive holiday destinations in exchange for sex and companionship”.
So writes Nape a Motana in her well-written cautionary tale about a matric pupil who succumbs to temptation.
Rolivhuwa Ramabulana comes from a poor home and is introduced to the world of being a sugar baby by her fellow pupil and sugar baby friend, Kedibone Mahlope.
Rolivhuwa’s lifestyle changes after meeting her sugar daddy, Bigvy Masemola.
She eats fancy food, has a top-of-the-range cellphone, a new and expensive wardrobe, and she always has money in her pocket, much of which she passes on to her struggling mother.
In fact, Bigvy’s intervention not only changes Rolivhuwa’s life, but that of her mother, who gives her daughter her support and blessing.
Sugar daddies have been around for as long as I can remember, but the new name of “blesser” has made the phenomenon a less scrutinised and more acceptable one.
There is a whole new “blesser” and “blessee” culture among South African millennials, and it is accepted and understood one has to give something in return for all the benefits. And what are consequences?
Things are not straightforward for Rolivhuwa.
While she grapples to deal with her mother’s enthusiasm for her complex relationship with Bigvy, she also struggles with peer pressure to enjoy the moment, pushing aside those who genuinely care for her well-being.
But nothing is for nothing, as Rolivhuwa bitterly discovers.
Motana unpacks all the positive and negative effects of having a sugar daddy. Hamba Sugar Daddy deals with issues of power, poverty, family dynamics and ignorance.
The book’s cover is a clear indication of the target market. It is geared towards high school pupils and those in their late teens and early 20s, girls and women who may face the temptation of looking for financial and material support in a climate of poverty. * Hamba Sugar Daddy by Nape a Motana is published by Jacana