File photo: Many children were released to sponsors, mostly family members, and hundreds of parents were deported without their children. Picture: Reuters
File photo: Many children were released to sponsors, mostly family members, and hundreds of parents were deported without their children. Picture: Reuters

Separated from her daughters, Honduran mom parents from her smartphone

By Reuters Time of article published Jul 22, 2021

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By Laura Gottesdiener, Kristina Cooke and Ted Hesson

SAN PEDRO SULA, Honduras - Maria's day begins at 7am, when she rouses her daughters for elementary school, and does not finish until late at night, when the kitchen is clean. Like many moms, Maria has found parenthood even harder since the Covid-19 pandemic pushed classes online.

But unlike most other mothers, Maria is raising Michelle,11, and Nicole, 6, from thousands of miles away. She is in Honduras and they are in California.

US border officials under former President Donald Trump separated Maria from her daughters after they crossed the US-Mexico border in 2017 to seek asylum. The girls were sent to a shelter and then released into the custody of their adult older brother, while Maria was deported to Honduras.

The girls were among thousands of children separated from their parents at the southwest US border under a Trump-era policy that charged parents with criminal immigration offences,while children were labelled "unaccompanied" and placed in shelters. Many children were released to sponsors, mostly family members, and hundreds of parents were deported without their children.

At the time, Nicole was still breastfeeding and Michelle was 8. Now Nicole has grown into a rebellious second-grader and Michelle's period has arrived.

Within weeks of taking office, President Joe Biden established a task force to reunite children and their parents or guardians separated under Trump's policy, calling such separations a "human tragedy."

Since then, 37 children have been reunited with parents by the task force, according to the Department of Homeland Security(DHS). Some 2 100 children may still be separated, although many of these families may have reunited on their own, the department said.

Maria is still waiting to join her daughters. Her lawyers have not yet formally petitioned for her reunification as she needs to gather more personal documents required by the US and Honduran governments before she can leave for the United States.

The case highlights the challenges the Biden administration faces as it works to track down separated parents. There unification effort has been hampered by the need to obtain travel documents from foreign governments and to process US immigration paperwork, a DHS spokesperson said.

Some advocacy groups have pushed the Biden administration to move faster with family reunifications. US officials counter that they are putting a system in place and plan to accelerate later.

Conchita Cruz, co-executive director of the non profit Asylum Seeker Advocacy Project (ASAP), said the task force has been responsive to advocates' concerns and she hopes many of the issues causing delays are being ironed out.

"We don't want a process that requires a separated parent to recruit an immigration attorney who is an expert in this program. That's not realistic to get a thousand people back,"she said.

Michelle and Nicole now live with their older brother, Maynor, 33, who works 12-hour days selling oranges to support the girls and his own two children.

Maria's smartphone-driven, helicopter parenting keeps her involved in every aspect of the girls' lives: from whether to wear a ponytail or a bun on a given day, to how to navigate adolescence.

"I'm always sending them messages," said Maria from her home, where she works as a seamstress and harvests bananas in the nearby mountains.

She requested to use only her first name given the gang threats she says her family has faced in Honduras.

She rattled off the girls' class schedules and the morning routine she orchestrates via WhatsApp: "Wash your face," "Brush your teeth," "Hop in the shower," "Comb your hair," "Use lemon slices if you've run out of deodorant."

And the most important rule of all: "Don't turn off your telephone on me!"


Maria and her two daughters fled Honduras in 2017 after gang members threatened Michelle, Maria said. They crossed the US border near San Luis, Arizona, that December and turned themselves in to US officials at a time when the Trump administration was rolling out what would become one of its most controversial policies — a crackdown on unauthorized crossings that led to thousands of migrant family separations.

After a few days in detention, a border agent took the girls away, while Maria was bussed to an adult detention centre. During her three months in detention, Maria says she was told by an attorney her only option was deportation: either with her children or alone.

"They gave me no real choice," she said.


Maria taught Nicole how to write her numbers over video call, after the girl fell behind in math earlier this year and briefly refused to attend her online classes out of frustration.When Michelle's menstruation arrived, she counselled Maynor on which sanitary pads and training bras to buy.

Not a day goes by that the mother and daughters don't talk,except for when the electricity goes out in Maria's neighbourhood and her phone battery dies. The girls still manage to surprise their mother, however.

"I know how to swim!" Nicole boasted recently, after Maynor took her to a nearby river, Maria recalled.

Aware that her absence has saddled Maynor with additional parenting responsibilities, Maria has spent hours on the phone helping Michelle cook traditional Honduran dishes like polloguisado, a rich chicken stew, hoping to lighten her son's domestic load.

Still, there's no replacement for human touch when it comes to coaching a child on how to coax a handful of dough into a flour tortilla for a perfect Honduran baleada - a tortilla stuffed with refried beans, cheese and cream.

"But we're working on it," Maria said.

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