You find yourself in the maelstrom of the modern dating world with dating skills that feel somewhat dated..
Online dating, cyber sex, dating via WhatsApp. Where has the romance gone? Stepping out into the world of dating now, holds an entirely new set of rules and behaviours for those who have come out of a long term marriage or relationship and are looking to date again.
The most common way to meet new people seems to be online. For someone that is unused to this type of exposure, this can be daunting. How does one put together an online profile? How much detail is appropriate? A common fear is, how to discern if a potential date is genuine or safe? How easy is it to move from an online virtual chat into a real date?
Choose the medium that you feel most comfortable, if it’s not online dating, join an activity that is slightly out of your comfort zone, such as cooking classes, a movie club or a new sporting activity. Look for ways of meeting new friends rather than hunting for a new partner.
Online dating is a novel way of meeting people outside your regular circle, I encourage clients not to indulge in lengthy virtual relationships, as these can be illusory. Meeting the partner in real life is important. Many people have been heartbroken to discover that they have fallen in love with an online illusion and are embarrassed to admit this.