John Boyega's musings on romance: 'I’ve only been in love once'
John Boyega has only been in love once.
The 28-year-old actor admitted it’s taken him until now to realise the feelings he had in his early relationships didn’t run as deeply as he first thought.
He said: “I’ve only been in love once. Sometimes you’re just in 'like', and I had to figure that out in my early twenties – I didn’t necessarily have the clarity or the skill set to work it out.
“Bob Marley said, don’t awaken something in a woman without the intention of loving her – that would sum up my experiences in my early twenties.”
The ‘Star Wars: The Force Awakens’ actor believes love is a “decision” and he is willing to listen to painful truths from those he knows truly care.
He told The Times magazine: “Love is a lifestyle and it’s a decision. Sometimes, the person who holds the keys to your heart also holds the keys to your irritation.
“Somebody can tell you a truth about yourself that hurts, and when you hear it you can get defensive. But when you go to sleep at night, you’re like, ‘Oh, man, they were absolutely right.’ ”
John – who famously acknowledged he could lose his career after delivering a passionate speech during a Black Lives Matter demonstration in London this summer – admitted knowing when he should speak out has been a “struggle” but he’s just striving for equality.
He said: “Silence can be too loud – and the cost of it can be too expensive. I’ve struggled thinking about whether to speak out.
“I don’t want to seem like I want to bury everybody – that’s not my intention. When I came into this industry, I didn’t see equal opportunity.”