LISTEN: Why it's hard to date as a multi-racial person

Today, she uses dating apps like Tinder and SoulSwipe.

Today, she uses dating apps like Tinder and SoulSwipe.

Published May 10, 2017

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Washington - Tabria Lee-Noonan has always felt a little bit different.

She is half black and half white, and she grew up in a predominantly white town outside of Seattle, where she certainly felt like she stood out.

"Half breed. Mulatto. Mutt," she said. "Those are things you get called a lot."

Today, she uses dating apps like Tinder and SoulSwipe, but the experiences are always mired in suspicion that men are seeing her as a mixed woman, some kind of exotic – and not just a woman. One message on Tinder compliments her "big, brown eyes," and she laughs wryly.

"I can't take this seriously," she said.

That gut-reaction suspicion is one result of a lifetime of being told that you don't fit in, that you are different. And not in a good way.

The first time Tabria felt like the object of a man's fetish, she was a senior in high school.

Hear her story, as well as a conversation with New York Magazine's Maureen O'Connor, in this episode of Other: Mixed Race In America.

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