We've all been through it where the date nights have disappeared and the sex life has become as predictable as a drunken binge on Grey's Anatomy.
Believe it or not, it is possible to get that honeymoon feeling back! Here are our top 10 tips for spicing up your marriage.
1. Use technology to get your point across...
Instead of looking at your watch and thinking there's just no time to talk to him, make technology work for you. Send him a text telling him how much you miss him. Or if you're somewhere private, send him a photo of yourself in nothing but a pair of heels and smile. At least one of these small gestures should give him the hint that tonight is not going to be another night spent catching up on reality TV.
2. I think you're both feeling "sick" today…
Generally speaking, most couples have their vacation days planned the day after the New Year, so taking a random vacation day doesn't always seem feasible. However, calling in "sick", as long as you don't make a habit of it, is always an option. When you wake up in the morning, lean over and tell him that you feel like staying in bed; that you BOTH need to stay in bed today.
3. Make it a date…
I know, you read this everywhere but to be honest, you really cannot underestimate the power of a good date night. Pick an evening or even an afternoon if that works better, schedule a sitter or take the kids to the grandparents and spend some quality time together. Hit a new restaurant, take in a movie or even better go dancing and have some fun. Let go of the week and all of the details of your life and focus on just enjoying each other's company. Trust me; all those details will still be waiting when you walk through the door later that night.
4. Go shopping…
Before you laugh hysterically declaring that your man won't go near a Zara's or a shoe store to save his life, that's not exactly what I had in mind. When I say go shopping, I mean hit a lingerie store or even better an adult store. Explore the items together and commit to walking out with at least two of them; one that you would really love to try and one that he would really love to try. Be open to exploring and see where the night takes you. You just might be pleasantly surprised!
5. Become an actress…
No, I'm not suggesting that you fake your way through your relationship, (although I'm sure at one time or another we all have). Instead, rent a sexy movie like 9 ½ weeks, Basic Instinct or even Bull Durham. Pick out a few of the sexiest scenes and reenact them together. Sure, he may usually see you as (Insert name here); wife, mother and care taker, but when you start dancing around and seductively stripping like Kim Basinger in 9 ½ weeks, he's certain to forget all of that and see you as SEXY… end of story.
6. Make the most of a long weekend…
You may not be able to take a week long cruise together and likely have spent the bulk of your holiday budget on a week in Plett with the kids, but why not take a long weekend? Talk to your husband and make a list of the top five place you'd both like to go, plug in alerts at sites like Thank U Travel and when a deal comes through, jump on it. Sometimes all it takes to spice things up again is a few days to focus on each other.
7. Reminisce…
Nothing brings you back to the days when you first fell in love like a trip down memory lane. Take out old pictures or videos and view them together. Revisit the place where you first met or where he proposed, then talk about why and how you've stayed together all this time. Tell each other what you first noticed about the other person and when you first realized that you loved them. Then take a few minutes and list the top five things you still love about each other.
8. Hotel, motel, Holiday Inn…
Okay, we all have a home to return to and a bed to lie down in, but sometimes the redundancy of home/bedroom sex makes everyone want to pass. The next time the two of you are out for dinner or running errands, look around and see if there is a hotel nearby. Just the rush of spontaneity can count as foreplay. Lean over to him and whisper in his ear, "I have to have you right now, I cannot wait until we get home." Tell him you spotted a hotel up the street or around the corner and playfully demand that he take you there immediately. When you get there, make the most of it.
9. Get steamy…
Taking a bath or a shower is like second nature. We all do it every day. However, the next time you are about to slip into a tub of bubbles or even a hot shower, invite your spouse to join you. Light some candles, throw on some music and spend a little time together getting dirty before you get clean. It seems pretty simple, but so are most men.
10. Get out of your routine…
The biggest issue that most couples have when it comes to their sex life is routine. They know that 6:00 pm kids get bath, 8:45 pm kids are in bed, 9:00 pm news comes on and if one of you makes a mad dash to lock the door before tracksuit pants come on and heads start hitting the pillow, you just might have time to squeeze in some love making.
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