Turn your sex life from drab to fab with these simple rules
RULE 1 - Boost your genital-esteem
The one thing that all women need to do in order to improve their sex lives is to know and love the way their vulva looks and smells. Discover what kind of stimulation feels best and enjoy regular sessions of self-loving. This is so important because if we don’t know what we like, what makes us think our lovers will know?
RULE 2 - Masturbate every day
The best thing you can do for your sex life is to make sure you have a daily orgasm regime. The more sex you get, the more you’ll then want, so regular masturbation actually works to boost your sex drive, and every time you have an orgasm it reinforces the sexual neural pathways in your brain, making them bigger and stronger. On top of this, regular orgasms offer a host of health benefits: your skin looks better, your mood is more positive and you release more pheromones, which makes you even more attractive to the opposite sex.
RULE 3 - Tone, hone and groan
Every woman should do pelvic floor exercises. I know it sounds boring, but they really are essential. As well as keeping your vagina tight to allow maximum pleasure for both you and your partner, it builds muscle strength, which increases the intensity of orgasm – pumping your pelvic muscles regularly increases blood flow to the area and therefore makes you more easily aroused. If possible, get your man to do them regularly too as this will also result in more intense orgasms for him, as well as stronger erections and better ejaculatory control.
RULE 4 - Explore your hidden clitoris
The clitoris is the most important pleasure point for us girls, and the latest research shows that clitoral tissue goes right inside your pelvis – you can hit it from inside through the vaginal wall and by pressing down just above your pubic mound. So, apply pressure on all three points during sex.
RULE 5 - Share your body’s secrets
The most important thing to make your sex life the best it can be is to know your own body. What sort of touch, pressure and friction gets you off? When you know, you need to be generous with this info and do a ‘show ’n tell’ with your lover. Let him know how the sensations that work for you can be translated into sex-play with him. And, of course, ask him to share the same insider info with you about his turn-ons.
RULE 6 - Lubricate your love life
Lube is a classic bedroom essential, and it’s probably the best and most liberating sex toy in the world. There’s still an idea that lubricant is only used for vaginal dryness or anal sex, but it can enrich every sexual experience by swapping friction for flow.
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