QUESTION: I had a satisfying love life with my husband for 20 years but, since my late 40s, I have found it difficult to reach orgasm.
I still enjoy making love, but my spouse has become despondent as a result. Last time I suggested sex, he said: “What’s the point?” How can I improve this situation?
ANSWER: The need to “satisfy your partner in bed” drives the headlines of countless women’s magazines, but we often don’t question what true satisfaction entails. People tend to equate it with orgasm — but that can be limiting.
It seems your husband isn’t convinced you can feel happy without reaching orgasm. Many people feel that a large part of their sexual excitement comes from witnessing their partner’s erotic fulfilment.