I blame Hollywood for selling us a dream that never quite materialised. Don't worry, I think we were all duped by the fantasy that our very first sexual experience was supposed to be satin sheets strewn with roses.
Most of us got it wrong. Instead, it was a remake of a drama-comedy, complete with outtakes of fumbling in the dark and tripping over hastily-taken off clothing.
But knowing what we know now, it's clear that with a few practiced moves, sex improves over time.
While writing a feature for Refinery29, Erika W Smith wanted to find out from other women what sex really feels like by skipping the bullsh*t and getting down to the nitty gritty. She discovered a treasure trove of information in a now-archived thread on Reddit.
Ten years later and the comments on "Female Redditors: What does sex feel like for women?" are still relevant today.