New York - Dominick Quartuccio was concerned about his libido, which he’d noticed was slowing down as he reached 40.
“The prevailing social narrative is that you’re getting old, so go get a pill,” Quartuccio said. An executive coach, he helps clients speak candidly about their anxieties - romantic and sexual, sometimes, as well as professional - and preferred to do the same.
In March, Quartuccio posted on the Kaleidoscope, an invitation-only Facebook group where nearly 3 000 participants post questions and answers about sex and sexuality.
Within hours, he had more than 15 suggestions: “embracing, supporting, offering ideas - ‘hey go check out this person for reiki or tantra,'” Quartuccio said. “But most useful was the acknowledgment of my courage to talk about it. To take these shadowy conversations out into the open and demystify them.”
The Kaleidoscope is one of several social communities and companies that have emerged to help adults talk openly about sex and sexuality, with the explicit goal of teaching them everything they didn’t learn in health class or from their parents.