Yet. This is the crux. Because if you turn out to be a sexual genie who manages to rub her G-spot and give her a powerful and deep orgasm, she'll never forget the experience.
A G-spot orgasm is held aloft as women's ultimate sexual wish - and for good reason. The G-spot - the urethral sponge - was identified as the source of female erotic pleasure by gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg in the 1940s. Countless women have reported that when a certain area on the front wall of their vagina is rubbed the right way, it gives them a climax that's far more intense than a clitoral orgasm.
Clitoral orgasms tend to be more localised, while G-spot orgasms are described as deeper, whole-body orgasms. And that's a prize that no woman is going to sniff at.
But it's a little bit tricky for women to self-stimulate this spot. The angle's all wrong, for a start. This is why most women who attempt to find their G-spot in solo play (read: masturbation) usually opt for women's best friend - the G-spot vibrator. It's slim, easy to insert, and typically has a nice curved head that can not only massage the spot by rubbing, but can actually vibrate it too. The ultimate bliss.
I suspect I'm going to get a flood of complaints from guys who say they've tried but failed in this Herculean task. With most guys, failure doesn't sit well. Especially in the sexual prowess club. That's why I'm going to help demystify the G-spot orgasm a little bit so that your chances are raised substantially. And her nirvana is one huge step closer.
Here are 10 reasons why you might have found it difficult finding your woman's G-spot - plus how to increase your chances of being a G-spot genie:
1. The G-spot is not inside the vagina. If you're looking-by-feel for some little thing in there, you're going to remain in the dark. The G-spot is the urethral sponge, a bit of tissue that wraps around the urethra and lies close to the front wall of the vagina - and it's this you need to stimulate through the wall.
2. For some women, the G-spot may only be responsive at certain stages of the monthly cycle. So if you try it tonight and she feels no particular pleasure, this doesn't mean that she doesn't have a responsive G-spot. Be persistent and try at different times of her cycle.
3. Bear in mind that a small proportion of women don't find G-spot stimulation fun and for some, it's even irritating. Of course, we are all individual and we can't expect everyone to respond the same way. So if she tells you she doesn't dig it, move on to her clitoris.
4. Unless she's highly aroused, you probably won't locate her G-spot. This is because it's easier to feel when the erectile tissue is engorged with blood from arousal. The answer is to spend time getting her really excited, and then to venture in.
5. If you're using your penis in an attempt to find the spot, it had better be curved when erect - and preferably curved in the right direction! Seriously, though, there are some sex positions that are better for stimulating the front wall of the vagina, like doggy-style sex and woman on top, so experiment with different positions. But the penis remains the least likely candidate for hitting her spot.
6. If you've been plying away with your penis without results, try your fingers or a G-spot vibrator. They can curve around the arch of the pubic bone, which is where the G-spot resides, which makes them much more efficient. Make sure your nails are short and smooth, and your fingers scrubbed absolutely clean. Sterilise the vibe or use a condom over it.
7. If you've been angling deep, you've probably missed the mark. The G-spot is in the outer third of her vagina, roughly two inches in. Insert your finger or vibe and angle it towards the front wall (belly button side). Just after the pubic bone is a slightly protruding area that feels different. Most of the vaginal wall feels smooth but this spot will feel rougher and possibly stick out like a bit of a ridge.
8. The G-spot is not a magic button that you push once or twice to get her to explode in contractions. It responds to firm, ongoing rubbing and massaging, and isn't a fan of gentle stimulation. Try different pressures, motions and types of stimulation, including vibration. Move your finger up and down, or around in small circles, and keep it up as patience is usually well rewarded. Try rubbing her clitoris as well to up the orgasmic ante substantially.
9.If you've been giving up on your task because she feels a need to urinate, then you've actually hit the nail on the head - but you're giving up too soon. Stimulating the G-spot may make her feel she needs to wee because it's the urethra you're stimulating. The feeling will pass after a few seconds, so tell her to hang on but not to hold back. If she bears down like she's pushing a baby out, this should encourage an orgasm.
10. If she tells you to stop because she's definitely going to urinate, don't stop - because right before or during her orgasm, she may ejaculate a clear fluid that resembles but isn't urine. This often goes hand-in-hand with G-spot orgasms, and can be an incredibly powerful release. She may ejaculate just a few drops, or a whole lot more - and may even squirt across the room. Along with the orgasm, the sensation is exquisite.
And finally, if you've heard of the sexual act of fisting (inserting a whole hand internally) and wondered why on earth this would appeal to anyone, here's why: some women need a feeling of fullness to even notice their G-spot. The inserted hand is eased into a fist, which then massages the G-spot.