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Women long for past sex - survey

Gauteng Education MEC Panyaza Lesufi said that sex and violence shown on prime-time TV are partially to blame for pupils' misbehaviour.

Gauteng Education MEC Panyaza Lesufi said that sex and violence shown on prime-time TV are partially to blame for pupils' misbehaviour.

Published Oct 11, 2012


London - Many women are looking back with longing on past relationships, admitting sex was better with their ex than their current partner.

A total of 38 percent of women confessed in a recent survey that they had the best sex of their lives in a previous relationship.

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Meanwhile, just 29 percent of men said their best sex was with an ex.

Sex expert Tracey Cox said the “grass is greener” sexual syndrome wasn’t new.

She said: “Women don’t tend to marry the guy they had great sex with. They marry for more ‘sensible’ attributes – like whether he’ll be loyal and a good father. I get lots of e-mails from women saying they love their husbands, but fantasise about sex with their exes.

“They don’t regret not choosing them as long-term mates, but they do miss the great sex they had.”

The responses from both sexes also revealed that sex gets better with age, with just seven percent of both women and men naming their first love as their best lover.

Casual sex was no match for “committed love-making”, with both men and women in agreement that what makes the best sex is “love” and “passion”.

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Only four percent of women and three percent of men said their best sex was a one-night stand and just one percent of both sexes named a holiday fling as their best sex.

But where the responses differ in the poll of 1 100 men and women by UK sex toy retailer Lovehoney are in the levels of sexual satisfaction with their current partners.

Sixty-two percent of women and 71 percent of men said their best sex was with their current partner.

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The results showed women were becoming more sexually assertive – and far more ready to admit to dissatisfaction with their current lover. One possible reason for this greater assertiveness is the Fifty Shades Of Grey phenomenon. Experts say women have read the book over the summer and are increasingly reluctant to settle for second best in the bedroom.

But when it comes to experimenting, such as with bondage like the Fifty Shades characters, men found this more satisfying, with 26 percent saying doing something they never usually do was the reason for the best sex of their lives, compared with 17 percent of women.

Sex toys are also much more important to men (25 percent) than women (14 percent), while about nine percent of women and 11 percent of men were turned on by the risk of being caught.

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Tracey, who has her own range with Lovehoney, said the survey showed that couples were becoming more sexually adventurous.

She said: “Books like Fifty Shades Of Grey help create a healthy sexual environment where women realise to have good sex, you need novelty and ‘edge’. It’s not all about sex on Saturday night in the missionary position.”

Lovehoney accounts for 36 percent of all sex toys sold online in the UK. Sales are up 60 percent year on year – with Fifty Shades Of Grey by British writer EL James thought to be a key factor in the surge in demand. – Daily Mail

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