By Sharon Gordon
Johanneburg - Last week we gave our men a spoil by talking about and hopefully putting into practice how to give an Erotic Massage. This week it is our turn. Time to level up on those techniques and positions.
Gear up because we've got the SA sexpert scoop on how to erotically update five already great positions so that they provide even more happiness to the body.
Many positions may sound familiar at first, but we've put a special orgasmic spin on them to level up your pleasure and have you and your guy grinning from ear to ear.
The Side by Side allows you the sort of languishing, leisurely pace that, in the end, packs a real punch. (Slow and steady can win the climax race!) Orgasms that result from a long, slow buildup are frequently much stronger than those that are achieved with fast and intense stimulation.
By savoring every single sensation, you're able to achieve a higher level of pleasure in the end. This side-by-side setup is great for intimacy and if one of you has a sore back! Intimacy can sometimes get lost in the bump and grind of sex. All the eye contact, kissing and closeness of this position will drive your slow climb to orgasm.
How to do it
You and your partner should be facing each other on your sides, close together. Raise your upper leg and help him to slide inside, then drape the leg over his and tight around it. Try to arrange it so that your feet are braced against a wall or foot board. That way, you can use the strength in your feet, legs and toes to give you the action you want.
The side-by-side allows you to have that firm, full-body contraction while staying in motion. Adjust the coital fit of his entry by tensing or relaxing your thighs together. You'll hug his torso, stimulating the inner walls of your entire vagina; by relaxing your legs and opening them somewhat, he'll have a bigger range of motion, which can help you get intense clitoral titillation en route to your climax.
Doggie – Good Boy
The orgasmic advantage of the doggie-style is that it directs intense, firm pressure the penis to the G-spot.
In fact, it's one of the only positions where the penis is touching the G-spot like a bull's-eye. It's a direct hit. It's primal. This is how animals do it. So when people want to connect with their raw, unbridled, passionate sexuality, they often look to this position.
Then there's the erotic incognito element: The fact that neither of you are able to see the other's face can lead to lower self-consciousness and higher pleasure-consciousness. When you're not able to use your visual sense, you rely on your senses of touch, sound and smell, which allow you to let go and pay attention to the sensations that will help lead you to climax.
How to do it
Assume an all-fours crawling position and let him enter you from behind, either standing or kneeling on the bed behind you. But instead of staying on your hands and knees, tilt your shoulders downward with your forearms flat on the bed in front of you.
The natural curve in your back from this variation will expand or contract your vaginal wall so you can monitor how deep he goes. If you arch your back into a small hump, it will shorten your vagina and shift the stimulation down a notch; bend it the other way and you'll get deeper, more intense thrusting action. Plus, he'll get strong stimulation to the head of his penis, the most sensitive part. If you don't like him to go deep, have him use a circular motion so his pelvic bones don't push into your bum. Should your arms begin to ache from the exertion, meld with the mattress by lying flat on your stomach but arching your buttocks upward by placing a pillow under your pelvis.
He'll be perfectly positioned to hit your G-spot, which is on the anterior (tummy side) vaginal wall.
Woman on top
The Woman on Top has such climax potential: Hovering in a sexy squat above your man — rather than sitting or straddling him squarely — gives you the perfect chance to clench him tight.
This is one of the easiest positions in which to flex your PC muscles around the glans of his penis, which can initiate an intense orgasmic response. This erotic arrangement also allows for better command of pacing and depth of thrusts (it's easy to vary between deep and shallow), which helps put you in control of your climax.
Squatting will help you feel the entire length of his shaft as you encircle it, and the muscle tension created by holding yourself above him will really add to the intensity of your pleasure."
How to do it
Straddle your man (lying on his back) and slowly lower yourself onto his pelvis, sliding his penis inside you as you go. But rather than sitting down in a straddle position, raise yourself up off him in a squatting position.
Put your hands on his thighs, stomach, rib cage or upper chest for support. Start by sliding yourself up and down his member by lifting your lower body up and down — a totally different motion than going forward and back like regular woman-on-top.
Vary your pace, starting with some fast, teasingly shallow thrusts that touch only the tip of his penis, then move down into deep, slower thrusts that envelop him completely. The fabulous friction you'll create will give you the double bonus of amazing sensations all along the edge of your vaginal opening when you pump shallow and on your G-spot when you pump deep.
If you try leaning backward and resting your hands on his thighs and knees, the sensation will even spread to your clitoris — and the natural arching of your back will open up your body for him to fondle.
Full Frontal Pose
With this full frontal pose, a woman is really able to watch her man in action and one hundred percent surrender to the sensations.
The pleasure of this position is that he gets to take complete control and show off while you lie back, relax and let yourself have some very intense G-spot pressure, because your lower body is lifted up at a perfect angle for his penis to give you maximum penetration.
Plus, it will double your pleasure, and also by putting your body in a prime position for your guy to hit your most sizzling spot, you'll also be more open than ever to manually (and directly) stimulate yourself.
This will heat up your hottest genital nerve systems (those around the clitoris and the G-spot) so much so that you can have a blended orgasm which is a combination orgasm of the clit and the G-Spot.
How to do it
Start by lying on your back on a bed with your legs spread apart slightly and your partner kneeling in front of you.
He should then place the backs of your knees in the crooks of his elbows and pull upward so that your lower back and butt are raised off the bed at a 20- to 30-degree angle and the backs of your thighs are pressed against his stomach and chest.
Try using one or more pillows beneath your bum and back (the more pillows, the less you have to do) to hike yourself up a bit so he has a prime pleasure-you angle. He should be able to enter you easily this way, as your buttocks will be cupped between his quads with your genitals pressing right up against his.
You'll have to expend a bit of effort to keep your thighs together, it will be well worth it!
I’m quite hot under the collar just writing this. Have a very sexy weekend!