Gay imam to wed pair by Islamic rites

lesbian marriage . Sadia Kruger and Zukayna Leonard. Picture: Patrick Louw

Five years ago, they made history by becoming the first lesbian couple to get married under South Africa’s new same-sex union legislation.

At the same time, they also apparently became the first Muslim lesbians in the world to get married.

Now Sadia Kruger, 53, and Zukayna Leonard, 36, are ready to take the next big step – the couple plan to get married by Islamic rites to celebrate their fifth wedding anniversary.

“We are both born Muslim, this will be a blessing,” says Sadia.

The Delft couple got married during a civil ceremony at the Department of Home Affairs in Mitchell’s Plain in February 2007.

But Zukayna says it’s always been a dream of hers to have a traditional wedding.

“It’s been my dream to get married in a midorah [gold-stitched headscarf] and I’m going to do it,” she says.

 

Sadia explains they have approached The Inner Circle, an international human rights organisation based in Wynberg, which deals with Islam, gender and sexual diversity.

Director Imam Muhsin Hendricks says Sadia and Zukayna would be the eighth gay couple to be married at the centre.

As the “only” Muslim cleric in South Africa willing to marry homosexuals, the openly gay Hendricks has already entered seven couples into holy matrimony.

“Quite a large number of queer couples believe that marriage is an institution and that commitment supersedes this institution,” he says.

“They also believe that the concept of marriage is riddled with religious and patriarchal underpinnings.

“Hence many who do have a formal ceremony prefer to call it a spiritual union, commitment ceremony or a blessing.

 

“There is no dowry system, but we do encourage the exchange of gifts.

“The marriage follows the essential pillars of an Islamic marriage such as the Ijab [someone requesting] and Qabul [someone accepting] and the two witnesses.”

Zukayna and Sadia met 20 years ago when Sadia, a taxi operator, was driving Zukayna and a group of school friends from Manenberg to the beach.

The happy couple lived together for 14 years before getting married.

Sadia says the past five years have been bliss.

“Our friends ask, ‘Are you two not yet bored of each other after almost 20 years?’ But if you love one another, how can there be a problem?”

Zukayna, a manager at a popular eatery in Cavendish Square, attributes their happiness to communication and to the fact that they are both female.

“If the communication is open and flowing, you won’t have any problems,” she says.

“And then of course there is the big one – compromise, it’s a give and take situation.”

While their families have accepted their lifestyle, Zukayna said they had made peace with homophobes “out there” a long time ago.

“If people ask me [about my lifestyle], I’m honest, but I’ve learnt not to bring religion into it,” Zukayna adds.

“I really don’t care what people say. It’s my life, and I’m living it.” - Daily Voice


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PPIIGG, wrote

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07:38am on 2 February 2012
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ALL YOU GUYS THAT ARE RESPONDING TO THIS ARTICLE, DID YOUR'LL GO TO SCHOOL. THE GRAMMER AND SPELLING IS BAD.

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issyM, wrote

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03:10am on 2 February 2012
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@roots,Islam is perfect,it is man who is not...

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Anonymous, wrote

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01:33am on 2 February 2012
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If you want your lifestyle, which is your right, and not accept what religion teaches, you should not seek to bring religious rites into it. Marriage is between opposite sexes.

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Anonymous, wrote

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05:27pm on 1 February 2012
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@roots...just as evryone does things wrong, so to are those few with weak imaans (faith) and hence they do the wrongs thngs ...dnt judge all muslims by a few rotten apples and yes there is no such a thing as a gay imaam.and gay and lesbians are not and will nver be accepted in islam. lots and lots of corrupt things will happen in this world before it ends,and u hv to just hold on strongly to ur faith....

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mememe, wrote

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05:01pm on 1 February 2012
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A nikhaa (wedding ceremony) cannot be performed unless its a male and female. That's the basics of islam right there. Do not go by the fact that they have arabic names and call themselves muslim that they are practicing Islam. At least not the Islam of the Quran. This Imam as well, where did he study to get his title? Or is it as valid as the Doctor Abdullah's you get on every street corner? Let's not point fingers. I say to everyone, muslim or not. Go back to the basics, read your quran, bible, torah. She may be wearing a midorah and having a 'wedding' but that's not and never will be an islamic marriage.

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ANON, wrote

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05:00pm on 1 February 2012
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I agree with Abdullah- this is unislamic and should not be published in the first place. Im not saying we should hide what is goin on but they way its being published it for there exposure and mocking Islam.

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Muslim, wrote

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04:57pm on 1 February 2012
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The story of prophet Lot, on whom be peace, finds mention in several Qur'anic passages, especially Chapter 26:160-175 which reads: "The people of Lut rejected the apostles. Behold, their brother Lut said to them: "Will ye not fear (God)? "I am to you an apostle worthy of all trust. "So fear God and obey me. "No reward do I ask of you for it: my reward is only from the lord of the Worlds. "Of all the creatures in the world, will ye approach males, "And leave those whom God has created for you to be your mates? Nay, ye are a people transgressing (all limits)!" They said: "If thou desist not, O Lut! thou wilt assuredly be cast out!" He said: "I do detest your doings." "O my Lord! deliver me and my family from such things as they do!" So We delivered him and his family,- all Except an old woman who lingered behind. But the rest We destroyed utterly. We rained down on them a shower (of brimstone): and evil was the shower on those who were admonished (but heeded not)! Verily in this is a Sign: but most of them do not believe. And verily thy Lord is He, the Exalted in Might Most Merciful."

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Michael , wrote

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04:46pm on 1 February 2012
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@Anonymous - Well then I am not going to heaven. And do you know that the 13 prophet is Mohammed. Oh no probably not. Because they never put everything in the bible.

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King Goodwill Zwelethini, wrote

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04:45pm on 1 February 2012
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They cannot be muslim nor can they be Zulu. Eish the marriage officer is a madman! IKONA

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Roots, wrote

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04:44pm on 1 February 2012
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I qoute “Ijab [someone requesting] and Qabul [someone accepting] and the two witnesses.” Muslim Pillars, yet they will deny this, they have the sharp eye to say other religion are not true, sort out your house first. Imam agree these two will get married in Muslim Pillars...

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quakes, wrote

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04:44pm on 1 February 2012
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there are lots of things happening undercover even in islam .... no matter how strict and righteous seeming and seemingly not following or getting involved with such trends that are taking place in the world today. There are lots of gay muslims pretending and still in the closet with hidden deep dark secrets, having one night stands and no strings attached sexual encounters. Word has it that in Saudi Arabia man on man sexual encounters are not so easily suspected because the emphasis of punishment is placed on premarital heterosexual sex encounters .... so the guys rather bonk each other easily with having attractions for each other ... so please ... all that glitters is not gold .

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King Goodwill Zwelethini, wrote

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04:42pm on 1 February 2012
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They cannot be muslim nor can they be Zulu. Eish the marriage officer is a madman! IKONA

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adam and steve, wrote

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04:39pm on 1 February 2012
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sickening, why do you want to get married under muskim rights when you already breaking so many laws of islam. if you want a religous ceremony then act and be religous and to the gay imaam get real brother you cant be an imam and be gay seeing that you call yourself and imam you should know whats right and wrong

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Mohammed, wrote

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04:38pm on 1 February 2012
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And journalists want to know why government wants to regulate them. It is because they does do not know how to report correctly. I would have expected an opinion from a learned and recognised Imaam. There is no such thing as a GAY Imaam. Just like gays believe it is their right to be gay, then it is our right to term them as deviant people.

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Anonymous, wrote

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04:34pm on 1 February 2012
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@Micheal, Please learn your Bible, because you are not going to Heaven. The Bible clearly tells us that only a certain few will be going to Heaven namely 144000. Look it up.

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Abdullah, wrote

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04:31pm on 1 February 2012
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According to the teachings of the respected ibn Tayymiah [ scholar of previous century], the "gay" imam and the two "lesbians" ARE NOT MUSLIMS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please dont confuse people to say they are muslim when islamic ures reject this abomination. There is no if or but ....... you are either pregnant or you are not.

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Roots, wrote

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04:30pm on 1 February 2012
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Muslims I am disappointed, The Arrivels clearly talks about the DIjjal ( AntiChrist ) and I see this in the only Religion I trust so much,,,3rd degree showed us all and now i know they will deny the truth and still claim to be Holy,

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Flyboy, wrote

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04:27pm on 1 February 2012
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It didn't take long for the homophobes and haters to come out. I'm only surprised there aren't more. I happen to know a few gay Muslims who are more devout than many of the hetrosexual ones I know. I agree that it appears to be contradictory to be gay and Muslim - I accept that all major religions reject homosexuals but that is because of the prejudice, bigotry and in-born hatred that all religions carry and which is necessary for their survival. It doesn't make it right. If a person is gay and wants to be religious they should be left alone - personally I'd advocate dumping the whole stupid endevour - religion, all religion is a complete utter waste of time and hasn't done one positive thing in this world that could not have been accomplished without it. On the other hand it is caused so much pain, destruction and physical and emotional agony - what bliss it would be if people just walked away. Just say no to religion and live a much happier life.

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Anonymous, wrote

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04:25pm on 1 February 2012
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i think this people don't respect religion

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Anonymous, wrote

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04:23pm on 1 February 2012
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where is PAGAD to condemn this??? everyone is condeming the MJC about halaal but its ok to break the laws of islam outright without shame - this marriage is clearly not halaal.

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