Becoming an instant Mom and Dad

Published Oct 15, 2000

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There they were lying on the bed - two perfect little baby boys - and we were asked the question: "Do you want them?" Our instant response was yes.

We had been advised of their birth a week before this and had to fly to another city to see them. They had been described to us over the phone and we had already decided that we wanted to adopt them.

After six years of waiting to have a baby and one long year on the adoption list, God had answered our constant prayers with double blessing - yes, twins - there was no way that we were going to hesitate.

They were the perfect combination in looks of my husband and myself and immediately belonged - and we became a family.

On our first night with our babies it was bitterly cold where we were being accomodated and the only way we could get our babies to sleep was by putting one each on our chests for the whole night.

Our body heat calmed and comforted them and they slept well.

On our return flight back home the next day our happy little family caused the flight to be delayed by a few minutes.

The air hostess and ourselves only discovered the reason when she was handing out toys and I requested another toy for my other baby. They had counted the twins that I had in one carry cot as one baby.

Phone did not stop ringing

Then came the excitement of both grannies, the uncle, aunt and little cousins, the numerous friends and relatives who all streamed in with wishes and gifts.

The phone did not stop ringing for weeks as the news spread. They were surrounded by a halo of love and joy.

My hubby and I were floating on air, but from day one we were calm and did not panic and became an instant mom and dad.

My husband was and still is a great help in caring for the children in every way possible (yes, changing diapers and making feeds too).

Secure knowledge

The only "dark clouds" during the first few months was the horrible waiting for the adoption papers to be issued as during that time the mother still had the right to change her mind.

Once I received the adoption papers, we had the babies baptised and then had the security of knowing that they could not be taken away from us.

We bonded instantly with our babies. My husband and I took care of them ourselves from the beginning.

During the first month they got up like clockwork for four-hour feeds (after 10pm, at 2am and 6am).

Both our darlings started sleeping through the night when they reached four months.

They are darling little imps who have started their little tricks of wanting to re-adjust the TV, video and hi-fi.

A full load

The other experiences of the joy of having twins: watching them grow and do "new things" every day, starting to coo and goo, relate to each other - the list goes on.

We are now quite used to "and baby make four" and the usual 2x car seats, nappy bags and pram/s - a full load every time we get into the car to go out.

It was wonderful to celebrate my first Mother's Day this year.

I hope I have been able to express the love, joy and everlasting happiness that we are experiencing and that is reciprocated by both our babies towards us.

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