Helping a colleague who attempted suicide

Published Jan 8, 2017

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Washington - QUESTION: One of our employees, a young

woman in her late 20s, attempted suicide and was hospitalised. After a paid

leave of absence and all the support we could offer organisationally and

individually, she came back to work after about six weeks. Many of us urged her

to take more time, but she is anxious about endangering her job and says being

at work feels better than being home alone while her husband works.

Yet she's not stable. She is able to do her job adequately,

but she leans heavily on one senior staffer - in and out of her office all day

crying - and that staffer is exhausted from the strain. Meanwhile, those of us

who best know the depressed colleague are worried about another suicide

attempt. Our boss feels under legal constraints to make no observations about

her health or suggestions, for fear of violating employment law.

This feels like a life-or-death matter, yet nobody knows

what we can or should be doing.

ANSWER: You are right to be worried for your co-worker.

According to the Centres for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2014, suicide

was the number 2 cause of death for Americans ages 25 to 34. And while your

collective supportiveness is laudable, you should also be concerned about the

ripple effect on you.

Your boss and HR department should immediately consult a

mental health expert, either through an employee assistance program or through

a suicide hotline, such as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at

800-273-TALK.

The exhausted staffer and other concerned co-workers also

should be directed to these resources, in part to learn how to compassionately

set protective personal boundaries.

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While the Americans With Disabilities Act discourages

employers from speculating about or trying to diagnose employees' medical

conditions, it doesn't prohibit pointing out when workers' conduct is

disruptive to their performance or others'. Also, your boss is generally

permitted to make the employee's return to work contingent on a medical

evaluation, if there is a reasonable belief that her condition is impairing her

performance or poses a threat to herself or others. He or she could also turn

to the Labour Department's Job Accommodation Network for confidential

consultations about how to offer accommodations without violating your

co-worker's ADA rights.

All these resources should help your boss guide your

co-worker to support from qualified professionals while providing workplace

support. If she needs more time off for treatment, the Family and Medical Leave

Act requires up to 12 weeks of job-protected unpaid leave in a year, with some

states and employers offering even more.

Thanks to the

Society for Human Resource Management.

WASHINGTON POST

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