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The days of poetic love letters are long gone, and these days, love-struck singles must compose witty, engaging missives short enough to translate over SMSes.

But according to one men’s interest website, for single males, writing the perfect SMS to a woman can be a puzzling and infuriating task.

In a recent survey, a majority of participants agreed it created more of an issue than approaching a woman in the first place and even knowing what to say after that awkward first kiss.

PR Web reports that TSB Magazine, a website providing sex and dating advice for men, presented readers a list of traditionally confusing aspects of dating. Of all the most obvious potential pitfalls, when to SMS and what to write took top place as the most hazardous areas.

A poorly composed SMS or a misunderstood punctuation mark can sabotage even the most innocent affairs, and the decision of what to write when can be a confusing game.

Even too many messages can be a deal breaker when it comes to keeping a girl interested, according to TSB Magazine founder Bobbi Rio, who has made quite a business of positioning himself as an expert on the subject.

Of the candidates who took part in the survey, 32 percent voted SMSing as their number one issue, while 22 percent admitted that knowing how to rescue an awkward conversation with an attractive woman was a significant hurdle.

Following closely behind, 18 percent of men complained that is is often hard to know when and how to “lean in” for the uncomfortable first kiss and negotiate the cringe-inducing conversation that precedes and follows the moment.

Surprisingly, most men had no issue with the notion of sidling up to a woman and initiating conversation, and only 12 percent confessed that summoning up the courage to do so presented a challenge. – Daily Mail