Von Teese, real name Heather Renee Sweet.

If burlesque shows or strip clubs have taught us anything, it’s that everyone can enjoy a sexy striptease performance. 

No matter your gender or sexuality, watching someone slowly tease the audience, as layer upon layer comes off, is tantalizing and sexy. 

Because I’ve always loved burlesque, I took a burlesque class a couple years ago. I learned some pretty exciting things like how to make and wear fancy pasties, bounce my butt in a way that looks pretty awesome when rocking fringe, and how to move my hips. 

Here they are...

Realise that the audience wants you there

The most important thing that I try to remember before I start  is the audience WANTS to be there. It’s true! Your partner wants you there, they want to see you tease and excite them as you strip. If you keep that in mind, you can cancel out the silly factor in your head.

Be yourself

My major struggle with doing a striptease is that I feel like I’m putting on airs by trying to be sexy. If you’re honest and don’t try to be something you’re not, you can’t go wrong. Basically, infusing humour and bits of the real you in there is key. It will also make you feel less like a fraud.

You don’t have to move the whole time

While a striptease does seem like it calls for a lot of movement and gyrating, you don’t have to continuously keep moving in order to seduce. I mean, just think about what you can do with just a look.

There’s a lot of power in stillness. You don't have to move all the time. It's so amazing to find that spot in the music where you stop moving, hold a pose, and let your partner just look at you, really look at you, without movement to distract from how incredible you look.

Find your inner confidence

We can all be critical about our bodies, but just remind yourself that your partner wants this. Is loving this, and will probably feed his fantasies for the foreseeable future. 

It’s with that realization that I felt like I could do anything and my body-positivity soars. Any concerns you have about your body become secondary when you harness that confidence.

Embrace your sexuality

You are sexy! You are hot! You are delectable! You're just like Dita von Teese! And man, oh man, you can you pull off sequin pasties! 

You’re a sexual being and once you put any other thoughts out of your head, you’ll be able to striptease the night away without even the slightest fear that you might look a little silly. 

And if you feel that creeping into your consciousness, have yourself a giggle. There’s nothing wrong with laughing. Laughing is sexy AF, too.


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